Cis person: in the real world people arent going to coddle you sweetie u cant expect everyone to respect your made up pronouns :))
Cis person: why do you have to be mean to cis people??? Why cant we all be nice and respect each other???????

Reading about abusive men and the way they think. Very unsettling and an incredible book so far. Here are my very professional notes.
what book is this?
This is from “Why Does He DO That” by Lundy Bancroft.
Let me tell you a story. Once at a party, I had all the little girls sitting around me and I was asking them about their favorite parts of all the princess movies. The birthday girl was sitting next to me, and tells me, “Princess, your skin is the same color as mine.” I smile and agree, and try to move the game along, but she interrupts and says, “Your skin is brown and you’re a princess. It’s the same color as mine, but you’re a princess.”
“Well, if my skin is brown and your skin is brown, and I’m a princess, then you must be a princess too.” I tell her. And then I spent the next 10 minutes assuring all the black girls at the party that yes, they have lovely skin and yes, they can be princesses with me.
This happens at most of the parties I go to. I have had my arm stroked, my hair patted, my skin color commented on more times than I can remember. I am not simply hired out to entertain a bunch of cute little girls dressed in poofy skirts who want to play with a big girl in a poofier skirt. I am hired out because I am an affirmation. For these little black girls (and boys! I’ve dazzled a few of them too) Princess Tiana is proof that for once, they can be special BECAUSE of the color of their skin, not IN SPITE OF.
“My Range Never Bothered Me Anyway” an Alto sings a hilarious parody cover for all who love “Let it Go” but can’t hit its high notes, i.e. 99% of us.
A bit of its hysterical lyrics:
Oh no, it’s come to the bridge, that can’t be good news
It’s getting about as high as I can go, dear god, whose
Idea was it to even let me attempt this?
I’m straining so damn hard, I’m fucked from here on ouuuuuuuuuut!
Fuck this shit, so done with it
These are notes I just can’t hit
Before my throat goes dry
My voice will crack and then I’ll cryDamn, though. I can hit those high notes with no problem but those low notes?! I physically can’t get them out. This song. Idina. DISNEY MUSIC. NO FAIR.
I am sorry for the non-book related post but its been 10 minutes and I am still laughing.
This is what Bella’s reaction should have been.

friendly reminder that noiz was the only guy in the entire game to use lube (in his re:connect route)
he’s lookin’ out for dat aobooty
congrats, you meme loving fuck
friendly reminder that mink was the only guy in the entire game to use lube AND consent (in his re:connect route)
gotta give credit where it’s due
“Oh, so because I’m straight I’m not allowed to have an opinion on [insert LGBT issue here]”
Listen.
I’m an english major. I know next to nothing about science, engineering, and astronomy. Sure, I think space is cool. I’m very supportive of NASA’s efforts. I might even have an opinion on where we should send the next shuttle or how much money we should spend on space travel.
But at the end of the day, my opinion on the matter is not valuable. I’m not going to enter into a discussion about the next shuttle launch with a bunch of trained scientists and expect them to take me seriously.
Sometimes, your opinion is not valuable. Sometimes, you aren’t qualified to enter a discussion.
And, lets be honest, straight people’s opinions are valued in literally every other situation. Hell, straight people get more awards for lgbt “activism” than queer people themselves.
If you really can’t accept that sometimes your voice isn’t the most important in the room, you might need to get over yourself.

As long as it isn’t a saftey hazard, I don’t see why we can’t have them. And yeah, if the tattoo is inappropriate or if your plugs have something inappropriate on them, then I can see why they would want them covered up it taken out. But if you have blue hair and the store or whatever wont hire you because of that, fuck them. I like your blue hair, I’ll hire you.
This.
Wow this is the most disturbing bit of rape culture I’ve seen all day
This is so fucking repulsive this is seriously a fucking tip sheet for abusers holy fuck no
MAKE SURE THEY CRY AND THEN GIVE THEM ALCOHOL AFTERWARD SO THEY THINK YOU STILL LOVE THEM this is fucking disgusting what the FUCK
I think I’m gonna be sick
“Make sure it ends in tears.” That’s not love.
kill me
“aftercare” is literally grooming your abused, emotionally traumatised partner into a state of comfort so that you can abuse them again
i hate this world
“Rape culture” “abuse” “trauma" ???????? ?? ? ?? ? ???? ? ?
Are yoU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!!? This is a guideline for couples who ENJOY spanking in their relationship, for a wide variety of reasons, like the fact that it’s a KINK!!!!!! IT’S CONSIDERED A PART OF BDSM CULTURE!!!! Notice the very first image says "CONSENTING ADULTS ONLY!!!” THIS IS NOT ABUSE, THIS IS FETISH!!!
THE “AFTERCARE” THAT YOU ARE BITCHING ABOUT IS A **N.E.C.E.S.S.A.R.Y.** PART OF ANY SCENES OR PLAYS THAT A COUPLE PARTICIPATES IN!!! IT’S LITERALLY WHERE YOU TAKE CARE OF AND LOVE ON YOUR PARTNER THAT WAS PUT THROUGH ANY STRESSING ACTS DURING THE SCENE!!!! IT’S A VERY IMPORTANT THING THAT EVERY HEALTHY BDSM RELATED SCENARIO SHOULD END IN!!!!!!!!
OH MY GOD, CAN SOMEONE THAT HAS A MORE EXTENSIVE KNOWLEDGE OF ALL THIS EXPLAIN IT IN MORE DETAIL FOR ME PLEASE?? I AM TOO ANGRY TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO DO IT!!!!!!