otterbelle:

seerofsarcasm:

Alright, followers, especially younger ones, we need to have a quick talk. Some of you in the cosplay community may have heard of the very recent murder of a 15 year old girl who had gone to a 23 year old’s house in order to make cosplay, nicknamed the “cosplay killing” (a name I disagree with because the murder had nothing to do with cosplay itself).

You know, we all joke about how when we were all young our parents told us that everyone online was out to molest us, and we joke about it because we know that it’s far from true. That doesn’t, however, change the fact that there ARE people like that, and you should always be wary.

I’m not going to tell you to never meet people from online because in this day and age the internet is so prevalent that saying distrust everyone would be like saying distrust every stranger on the street, but I am going to tell you a few things, and they all boil down to being alert, smart, safe, and cautious. There are people out there who wish to do good people harm, and the internet is the perfect place for them to find victims.

• Every person you are meeting online has just as equal a chance of being your murderer as they are your soulmate.
• Never, EVER meet someone alone.
• If you do choose to meet with someone, always bring a parent or trusted adult with you, tbh preferably male. Even if they don’t hang out with you and your new friend, they should be no farther than a table away at any time. Always have a parent or adult pick you up and drop you off, never get into a car with the person you’re meeting.
• If you’re a bit older (like me, i’m in my 20s) while you don’t need an adult because you are one, it’s best to have a large group of friends with you, again, preferably with some males (if you yourself aren’t male).
• Never agree to go to a hotel room, home, apartment or secluded location with someone who you have just met. First meetings should always be in an incredibly public place with lots of people around.
• Always carry with you one of the following: a taser, pepper spray, a defense stick, a knife, a whistle, or if you have a conceal carry permit, a weapon. They should be someplace both safe and hidden, like a purse or bag, but also be easily accessible.
• Be wary of large age differences. I’m sorry, but it’s true. This mainly applies when one party is under 18, especially under 16, and the other party is above 20.
• If the person you are meeting has a problem with any of this (you don’t really have to tell them about the weapon, but for the other things) that is a giant red flag and you should NOT go to see them. A TRUE friend or good person will say “I completely understand” and even then, just because you’ve known someone for a month doesn’t mean you know who they are or what their intentions are. No matter how well you think you know them, a relationship formed online should be treated differently than a relationship formed in person. Never let your guard down easily.

Currently, we don’t know how these two met, but word is it was through Facebook. Always, ALWAYS, be safe, wary, cautious, and most of all alert when talking with people online. This is especially for my younger followers, you don’t want your mother to have to go through what this poor girl’s has gone through in the past week.

The internet is a place that we’ve all come to feel safe at, but that safety is exactly what the evil people of this world search for when looking for victims like this poor girl, gone too soon. I would rather you look like an overcautious, untrusting person than a corpse, and remember that.

I know a lot of younger cosplayers and I just want to remind all of you to stay safe please. While we try to be a good community, there will always be someone that tries to slip through the cracks. I’ve known a couple of people who fell pray to said people and I’m not going to mention any names. Keep yourself safe, and make sure there’s always someone with you that you know whenever going to any sort of event or gathering.

heylookitsliz:

elizabeth-antoinette:

ikenbot:

freeselfdefense:

Rape Escape

• Easy and very effective
• Requires nothing but your body
• Includes attack

Very useful to know, pass and share please.

Worth watching

I don’t mean to impose a personal favour on you guys, but I really would like to ask that everyone who follows me reblog this. 

I don’t think I made it very clear but last month I was sexually assaulted by someone who I thought was my friend (I don’t want to talk about it don’t ask), and it’s… really fucked with my head. 

Had I known this a month ago I would have been able to get away. 

So, essentially, I’m really pleading with you to reblog this so everyone who follows you doesn’t get stuck in the same position I was with no way out. 

I mean again I don’t want the point of this to be my sob story or whatever but if you could reblog this it would seriously mean a lot 

apenapencilandanironlung:

xdarkslasherzx:

carysgotafanblog:

vote-anglosaxon:

ladydrace:

thetomska:

The Sex Talk: YouTube edition.

This video could have saved literally hundreds of thousands of people the embarrassment of the sex ed of my school days, holy crap. So useful. Saving this for about 10 years until my kid needs the talk.

THEY INCLUDED ASEXUALITY AND DEMISEXUALITY FOR ONCE!

I just got more information in 6 minutes about sex than I was ‘taught’ at school

Tomska is the best

This pretty much explains my love for tomska

peter-pan-is-my-patronus:

zayn-freaking-malik:

Let’s talk about this, shall we? I’m 16 years old. Since the age of about 13 when i would walk down the streets at midday by myself i would sometimes get honks from guys. At the time i’d think nothing of it. In fact it’s almost flattering right?

Then i got older and guys in my class started grabbing and slapping my ass, or making comment about my ‘tits’ and legs.

When i was in year 9 at school (about 14 years old) i was on the bus, in my school uniform and was pushed to my knee’s by a male while his friends circled me to make sure nobody saw. I punched him in the genitals and was suspended from my private school for doing so.

Nobody cared that i had been assaulted on a public bus. 

Then i grew older and inappropriate comments kept coming, but now it was from people i didn’t even know. I’d walk down the streets in jeans and get cat called at.

In summer, i’d wear shorts and would be called a slut and a whore. Again by strangers. Sometimes girls would be embarrassed to be seen with me, or ‘friends’ of mine wouldn’t to come near me because i was dressed like a ‘slut.’

Fun fact: I am a virgin. When i say no, i mean it. If the boy continues doing so- well, i grew up with two older brothers- and i know self defence. But i shouldn’t have to know self defence. I shouldn’t have to ward off unwanted attacks. I’m 16 years old and i have to deal with anxiety issues now whenever i have to leave my house. 

I go to a different school now, and i wear clothing that is not ‘slutty’ it is not ‘revealing’. The skirt i’ve been wearing is just above my knee’s. Most of the shirts i wear are singlets or tee’s. Yet when i walk by myself, boys will yell out ‘slut’ or ‘mmm i like those legs’ or girls will tell me to ‘put more clothes on’.

Today i decided this was going to change. I came to school dressed up in the most provocative clothing i owned. I revealed a lot of my skin and myself and wrote on both of my legs ‘STILL NOT ASKING FOR IT’. 

Why would i dress provocatively? I’m practically asking for it now aren’t i? No. I’m not. No matter what i wear, or who i’m with, or what i look like, there is literally no excuse for sexual harassment and sexual assault . I was told to take the writing off my legs by teachers, which i refused to do. Girls walked past me and told me i deserved to get raped or assaulted because of what i was wearing.

What has happened to respect? What has happened to culture and women? Why are girls so willing to disrespect themselves and their bodies just so a boy will look at them?

So tell me, what were you wearing when you got sexually harassed or assaulted? 

What were you doing at the time that warranted such behaviour to be directed towards you?

Tell me how i deserved it. Tell me it’s my fault. 

I’m only 16, i don’t want to have to deal with this for the rest of my life. I should not be scared of walking alone. I shouldn’t have to get warnings from my parents to not go out past dark. I shouldn’t have to be worried about going out and being called a slut or some one trying to grope me or comment on my appearance.

Because no matter what, i am not asking for it, and at the end of the day a no is a no. This doesn’t make me a tease or a slut. 

What boys do to you against your will is their call.

Their judgement, not your fault at all.

why does this have so little notes

dokidokidave:

sonata-of-the-soul:

lucidwolves:

EVERYONE, ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE NEEDS TO WATCH THIS.

EVERY.

FUCKING.

ONE.

God bless

thethneedler:

EVERYBODY SHOULD READ THIS!!!!!!!!!
REBLOG…IT CAN SAVE A LIFE OR TWO!!!
WARNING: Some knew about the red light on cars, but not Dialing 112.
An UNMARKED police car pulled up behind her and put his lights on. Lauren’s parents have always told her to never pull over for an unmarked car on the side of the road, but rather to wait until they get to a gas station, etc.

Lauren had actually listened to her parents advice, and promptly called, 112 on her cell phone to tell the police dispatcher that she would not pull over right away. She proceeded to tell the dispatcher that there was an unmarked police car with a flashing red light on his rooftop behind her. The dispatcher checked to see if there were police cars where she was and there weren’t, and he told her to keep driving, remain calm and that he had back up already on the way. 

Ten minutes later 4 cop cars surrounded her and the unmarked car behind her. One policeman went to her side and the others surrounded the car behind. They pulled the guy from the car and tackled him to the ground. The man was a convicted rapist and wanted for other crimes.
I never knew about the 112 Cell Phone feature. I tried it on my AT&T phone & it said, “Dialing Emergency Number.”
Especially for a woman alone in a car, you should not pull over for an unmarked car. Apparently police have to respect your right to keep going on to a safe place.

*Speaking to a service representative at Bell Mobility confirmed that 112 was a direct link to State trooper info. So, now it’s your turn to let your friends know about “Dialing, 112”

You may want to send this to every Man, Woman & Youngster you know; it may well save a life. 

This applies to ALL 50 states
PLEASE PASS ALONG TO FRIENDS AND FAMILY, IT CAN SAVE A LIFE….

daily-revivals:

nerv3endings:

asexual-not-a-sexual:

Here is a brief guide to some of the important things you never learned about in sex ed. 

• Debunking myths about anatomy 
• Brief overview of sexuality and gender (More complex version here)
• Slut-shaming and consent
• Various types of birth control (with at least 95% effectiveness) 
• Masturbation 
• Lube
• Sex toys

Ebook for sharing is [HERE] (I’m sorry I just really love making ebooks…)

Be one with the vagina.