definitely look into getting hydrocolloid adhesive plasters. you can get them at CVS or Walgreens or even Walmart if you look carefully. they’re blister bandages that can be cut into little squares and put over picked pimples or any small infected wounds (such as cuticles, which I’ve got right now) and left on over night or for a few hours and they draw out infections and protect the wound from getting more germs in it. they’re really easy to use and the results are amazing, plus, they’ll keep you from picking already existing wounds, while helping them heal. if you’re using one on your hands, I recommend putting a bandaid over it just to keep it in place just because your hands move around a lot, but other wise they’re self adhesive and don’t need anything else to hold them on.
they’ve helped me a lot and I haven’t seen much about them anywhere so I hope this post helps some people!!
there’s a post that’s like “its amazing how much you can get done if you just sit down and focus” with a second comment thats like “imagine being nt” and it has like thousands of notes but the op has adhd and was talking about how their meds were working really well
there’s another post that’s like “how do you block gay men on okcupid” or something with a reply like “have you tried christianmingle” and it has thousands of notes but the op was a trans girl who wanted to avoid chasers
there’s another post that’s like “date a quiet boy who will bring you a glass of water in the middle of the night” with a reply making fun of her “low standards” that has thousands of notes but the op was a teenage girl who was in an abusive relationship at the time that she made that post (and the reply was made by a grown man who had to apparently had to dig through months of this girl’s posts to find that one post & make fun of her for it so: yuck)
point is, can we please stop making these assumptions about total strangers on this site, harassing them over innocuous posts theyve made that have been misinterpreted by literal hordes of random people and unless somebodys being outright hateful and disrespectful can we leave each other alone and mind our own business lmao
“I feel like everyone around me secretly hates me.”
“I can’t help feeling like I’m being humoured.”
“I know other people find me annoying even if they don’t say it.”
Sound familiar? Probably. Tumblr is a haven to all sorts of anxiety-burdened folks, and there’s a reasonable chance you’re one.
The above is a type of distorted thinking calledMind Reading. It’s an extremely common cognitive component of social anxiety.
It’s called mind reading because the essential nature of it is founded in the assumption you know what other people think and feel without concrete evidence that this is the case.
Logically, you can step back and tell yourself that maybe your friend is feeling a little unwell or has something on her mind she’s not ready to talk about yet, but we both know your anxiously vibrating brain has already decided that it’s because she views hanging out with you as a chore.
But here’s the thing: recognizing distorted thinking is the first step to changing it. Cognitive distortions aren’t totally unlike addictions in that way- once you truly recognize and accept that you have one, you can go about doing something about it.
This is a key component of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
It’s a form of therapy that bases itself around the principle of giving sufferers of mental illness the tools they need to treat the peripheral symptoms of their core anxiety. Medication can be great for treating that core, but it doesn’t actually alter the behaviours or thought processes that you’ve developed as a result of years spent trying to cope.
If you have a habit of trying to read minds, you’re probably already really good at constantly questioning yourself. Self-doubt is definitely a thing in anxiety sufferers, too.
So question yourself productively: when you find yourself deciding how someone else feels about you, ask yourself if you’re being fair to them. Do you like it when people make assumptions about you? (They probably make you anxious, don’t they? Especially when they’re positive assumptions, because you’re sure you’ll disappoint.)
Question yourself when it matters. You’re really good at that, right? It seems like such a little thing, but it makes a world of difference.
Don’t let the only time you trust your own judgement be when it’s saying terrible things about you. That’s the starting point you need to go from.
When your mind tells you,
“You know they’re just putting up with you because they’re nice, right?”
In addition to tagging porn with NSFW, I will now be putting all gem smut and related NSFW art under the tag “Stephen Galaxy.” I encourage other smut artists to do the same, in order to keep smut art organized and accessible to those who seek it, as well as keeping it out of the main tag and away from minors.
As a general reminder, as well as those who are unfamiliar, this blog is NSFW and contains material unsuitable for minors. If you are under 18, under the legal age in your country of origin, or if it is otherwise unlawful for you to view adult material, please do not view this blog. Thank you.
That’s a REALLY good idea. Keep the tag safe for kids.
Nobody really talks about vaginal discharge. Why? Well, in the grand scheme of vaginal news, it’s not really a very sexy topic. It’s not as interesting as periods, and it’s definitely not the most thrilling thing to hear about when you’re learning about puberty. Nobody is talking about their vaginal discharge with their friends or anything like that either. And yet, everyone with a vagina has to deal with it. When you think about it, discharge might be one of the most taboo topics about the human body. Think about it, people are more likely to talk about their bowel movements than the mucus-like substance coming out of their vagina everyday!
Maybe the lack of discussion about it explains why so many people are so uninformed and confused by their vaginal discharge. If you’re one of those people, it’s time to get schooled. So here’s everything you need to know about vaginal discharge. You’re definitely going to pay more attention to that weird stuff coming out of your vag from now on.
Okay but seriously though, I’m so glad there’s a post addressing how fucking taboo it is to talk about it. It’s ridiculous. I remember when I was like 12-13 I thought my body was fucked up because NO ONE decided to tell me what was going on with my body, not even health teachers. The first time I heard “discharge” from a health class, doctor, or anyone really, was when talking about STD’s. That’s it. But it’s something that’s constantly there everyday?? To this day it still blows my mind how messed up it is that people are so hush hush about it.
I’m so mad. For years I’ve always thought that there was something wrong with me. No one tells you about normal everyday discharge and it seriously fucked me up for years. Last year, the last time I went to my OBGYN, I asked my doctor about it and all casually she tells me “It’s totally normal and happens to everyone”. Like why doesn’t anyone say this to young girls so they know they’re not fucked up? Like I’m 19 and I just found out a few months ago it’s normal. This is not okay.
HAPPY TO KNOW THAT MY ARTICLE WAS INFORMATIVE FOR Y’ALL!
okay, story time: i’m a resident actor a children’s theatre company, and we just did peter pan. i was cast as peter because i’m the only one who looks young enough to play the part; but aside from looking young, i look nothing like peter pan. he’s this little white boy with reddish brown hair and i’m an arab/hispanic queer with black hair and freckles.
our company has a really devoted following, and these kids are reeeally young. after every show, we do autographs as the characters and have to keep up the act, because to a lot of these really young kids, we are who we pretend to be on stage. that terrified me. i’ve done autograph sessions in-character before, but never as such a well-loved character. who, again, is white. i was worried about what children might say.
over the course of the production, we must have performed for close to 500 kids, between the shows we did for families and the shows we did for school field trips.
and i distinctly remember one little white girl who came up to me with a DVD copy of disney’s peter pan, and she had this adorable tinkerbell dress on, and she just stared at me wide-eyed and after a while she said “i have all your movies!!”
first of all, if you don’t think that’s the cutest thing ever, please leave.
and when i asked her what she wanted me to sign, she handed me her DVD and said “by your face.” and she points right at this little white redheaded peter pan with pointy ears who is clearly not me, as if she can’t tell the difference… or she can, and she doesn’t care. similar things happened with different children, but it never lost its charm for me. on the contrary, it really warmed my heart.
by that same token there were many children of color who were affected by seeing a brown peter pan. a lot of them (usually older children) and/or their parents ask me how i got into acting, and if i had any advice for how to get into it. it meant a lot to me that there’s this whole generation of children of color who are going to pursue the arts, because even though i live in a very diverse area, our theatre landscape is still very whitewashed.
anyway, what i’m trying to say isn’t just that representation matters, which it does. what i’m also trying to say is that one less white face in the crowd isn’t going to hurt anyone. i feel like i’ve heard time and again that white people can only identify with white characters, and the whole point of my story is that that’s obviously not true. that kind of behavior, where people only empathize with characters who look like them, has to be taught. and that kind of behavior is racism.
bolding is mine, because that last bit really knocked it out of the park for me
IF A GAY/ATHEIST/GENDERQUEER FRIEND IS ACTING STRAIGHT/RELIGIOUS/CIS AROUND FAMILY OR FRIENDS DONT FUCKING SAY “wait, I thought you said you were _______” THIS MEANS THEY HAVEN’T COME OUT AND IT MIGHT NOT BE SAFE FOR THEM
SPREAD THIS LIKE WILDFIRE. HOVER OVER THE LINK AND CHECK IN YOUR LOWER LEFT HAND CORNER OF YOUR BROWSER TO MAKE SURE ITS A GOOD WEBSITE.
yeah but you guys with this method they actually need followers, so it’s up to you guys to not follow any blogs that seem suspicious
also if you see one of these posts by a plain or nondecript blog that looks suspicious, make sure to flag the post and/or report the blog so nobody else sees it!
do me a favour. if a person wearing a long sleeved shirt or a sweatshirt and jeans on a hot day, don’t comment on it. don’t ask why they’re wearing it. don’t say anything at about it.
trust me, they know it’s hot, they know. but their reason for wearing what they’re wearing probably far outweighs the temperature outside.
This is a simple text based game where you play as a young trans person trying to buy some underwear. I made it with the intention of showing cis people what it’s like to be trans. You can play as a trans girl, trans boy, or a nonbinary person. It’s short, so you can play it multiple times for different paths. There are several paths, some better, some worse; if you’re easily triggered by dysphoria or transphobia, you may want to avoid this game. Some paths are safer than others, depending on how well you pass (surprise, surprise). TW for homophobic/transphobic slurs, transphobia/transmisogyny, slurs, misgendering, and possible violence.
why does anyone even care about other people doing things that have no negative outcome? like let girls take selfies with starbucks!! let straight dudes wear weird clothes!! let gay people be as feminine or as masculine as they want!! the next time you find yourself getting annoyed at someone, ask yourself “is this disrespectful? is this harmful to me or anyone else?” if the answer is no, then let it go - you probably have bigger things to worry about anyways
