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saltymrshotgun:

stormrose:

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coldeyesthatburn:

everythingdolls:

everythingdolls:

happentolife:

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acidshenko:

stayy-beautiful-baby:

intellectualthicket:

punkdad:

Deserves attention.

This needs more attention.

I support these men, not just women in similar situations ♥

Domestic violence knows no gender boundaries.

AbusedMen.org

It’s wonderful that this has so many notes.

Domestic violence is awful, no matter what genders are involved :C

One time I was scolded for mentioning the fact that men get abused too after my supervisor failed to mention it. While giving a tour of the domestic violence shelter I worked at. (“You aren’t supposed to talk during training, just watch.”)

Found out last week my brother’s wife has been physically assaulting him for years in addition to the mental and emotional abuse she’s put him through.  He’s always just stood there and took it - hasn’t laid a finger on her in return.  He finally had enough and called the cops.  Now he’s without a place to live - his mother-in-law kicked him out of the house - he sleeps in his truck and showers at my dad’s (he lives in a retirement community, so my brother can’t stay there).  My heart hurts for him, and I have no idea what to do to help. 

Ok this is making me feel some kinda way

yes, this is definitely a thing that does need to be talked about, and it is definitely okay too, just so long as we don’t try and compare it or put it on the same level as domestic violence towards women. Domestic violence definitely goes both ways but at different levels of severity and consistency.

^^^ what I failed to say

yes, this is definitely a thing that does need to be talked about, and it is definitely okay too, just so long as we don’t try and compare it or put it on the same level as domestic violence towards women. Domestic violence definitely goes both ways but at different levels of severity and consistency.

^^ Why the hell not? The way I see it, it is violence no matter how you think about it, and it is just as terrible when women abuse their boyfriends/husbands as when men abuse their wives/girlfriends. I’m all for women standing up for themselves when people act sexist, but please don’t do the whole reverse-sexist/super-feminist thing. 

There is absolutely no reason why we should view it any differently when a man is assaulted by a woman. Women have spent ages trying to prove we are just as good as men at everything: we are just as strong, as intelligent, as anything as a man. We need to stop playing the “It’s different for us, we’re women” card in situations like this! Why should anyone be less empathetic to a man who’s been abused by his wife/girlfriend compared to a woman who’s been assaulted? 

It’s because society views male victims as weak and pathetic. “oh, that guy, he lets his wife/girl toss him around.” That’s the reaction we normally give men that admit to domestic violence. We pity the women who are abused, because historically men have always been the ones in power and with the power to abuse in most societies, while women are often viewed as the delicate, fragile victim to the men in their lives. In reverse situations, we sometimes hold the women in esteem for not letting the guy order her about, for taking a stand for herself, and we fail to recognize that this is in fact abuse. 

This is not even to mention that the rate of domestic violence against men versus women is approximately equal. Statistics often report numbers based on police reports, and men are often less likely to report being abused by a woman (often for the reason I stated above—they don’t want to be viewed as weak or pathetic). Surveys report that men are the victims of domestic violence 35-50% of the time (and this is backed by scientific evidence; look it up if you don’t believe me: the link acidshenko gave is one of a few good resources).

And please don’t give me the whole difference of severity. I personally know more than one woman who could take on any man larger than she and emerge victorious. There’s plenty of evidence to support the fact that women can be just as violent as men, and can cause just as much damage as a man in a fight. (Tumblr loves the posts about self-defense, particularly for women; I know I’ve reblogged more than one of those posts myself). 

The fact of the matter is that no one should have to put up with being abused, or be afraid of being ridiculed for reporting abuse. I don’t care if the victim is male or female. Abuse should not happen. Period. 

I like this response..

Wow… only one misandrist replied.

There IS hope!

please read the whole thing people

mindofgemini:

thisnoiseismusic:

Hi, there.
I’m wearing a shirt that reads “Kill Me”.
If you saw me at a party or on the street would you promptly murder me?
What about if I had a few drinks? What if I was walking alone at night?
I’m guessing that you wouldn’t if you’re a sane individual.

The cops wouldn’t overlook your crime because of what I’m wearing because that’s silly. I wasn’t literally asking for you to kill me based on my choice of clothing. Who would take that defense seriously?

My friends wouldn’t blame me for being murdered and my killer would be behind bars almost instantly.

So, why is it okay to rape someone because they’re wearing revealing clothes? Why does THEIR choice of clothing excuse THEIR attacker?

It doesn’t. You’re silly if you think otherwise.
The less guilt on the attacker. The more guilt on victim.

Stop. Victim. Blaming.

Reblogging this again because it’s perfect.

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