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Why is there very little utility to women’s clothing? Why don’t we get pockets which actually open? Why do we have to put up with the ‘false pockets’ that are frequently sewn onto women’s jackets and pants to give visual interest without ruining the ‘line’ of the garment? Why, when pockets are actually present, are they so rarely large, stable, or loose enough to accommodate a phone or a wallet? And why, given this is the case, do women go on to cop so much flack for carrying handbags around with them?
Oh wait. Is this one of those double standards which we feminists are always going on about; one of those innocuous little things which everybody just accepts because it is the norm?
Women carry handbags. It is known.
But why? I have watched my male friends get ready to go out. They slip their wallet into one pocket, their keys into another, their phone into a third pocket, and some of them even still have spare pockets large enough to carry a novel for the journey. Those of my friends who wear women’s clothes, though, face an entirely different situation. If they are wearing the right jeans or jacket, they may have up to two usable pockets (not at all guaranteed). However, in most cases they won’t have any pockets at all. Utility and style rarely meet in women’s fashion, so they grab a bag.
Contrary to all the jokes, most women don’t ‘have’ to leave the house with everything they pack in their day-to-day handbag. Most of the items in a woman’s everyday handbag are in there because, if she’s going to have to carry it anyway, she might as well make it worth her while. Excuse us for making use of the one useful item we find in our wardrobes.
"Kara, “The Feminist and the Handbag” (via athenasaurus)
Oh lord, don’t get me started on this. This is a little thing that highlights a big equality problem between men and women. We need the same supplies as men to do the same job. When I stocked shelves it was impossible to find pants that would hold my wallet, my box knife, my badge, my keys, my gloves (I worked dairy/frozen) and my phone. I actually ended up not carrying my wallet or keys at all. Fuck if I’m carrying a purse *ever* but that certainly wouldn’t have helped on the job.
My husband? He holds all of that plus his insulin, packets of honey in case his blood sugar drops (or a vial of glucose tablets), glucometer, headphones, markers, and pencils. With plenty of room to spare. I’ve even seen him slip paperback books into empty pockets.
(via solluxisms)
I remember watching I think it was Project Runway and the contestants had to design a new uniform for female postal workers. The one designer put utilitarian pockets on her design, and the judges yelled at her for it. They said something about it not being flattering, because you know, the key part of any uniform is not that it works for the job, but that it shows off your body in the best light possible.
This is really not okay.
I think some people fail to realize that men can be sexually assaulted, too, and not just by other men. This girl shoves him against the wall and slaps him thee fucking times when he pushes her away. Heck, he has to push her away twice before she backs off for a moment. Then she goes right back to kissing him.
Gabbity is right—if the genders were reversed, everyone on this site would be flipping a shit. And if anyone dares to tell me that it’s different when a girl does it to a guy, I will personally write you a three-page essay on why it is still not okay.
^ I’m so happy to finally see a post like this.
this gif makes me so sad. he looks so confused and scared, especially after she hit his face the first time.
MHRA support:
- An end to the male gender role
- An end to dangerous stereotypes
- An end to routine circumcision
- An end to drafting
- Equality in the judicial systems
- Equality in custodial courts
- Equality in the education system
- Changing the definition of rape to include all victims
^^ This
-Liv
Hell yeah! All of this needs to happen.
but I’m curious, what do you mean by equality in the education system? What’s going on there?
At the root?
it’s the literacy thing. and the recess thing.
Literacy:
Phonics(learning words by breaking them down into units) is the best way to learn english.
in an effort to ‘equalize’ elementary classrooms because boys were advancing literacy quicker than girls, feminists advocated the whole language(figure out what the word means with ‘context clues’ and ‘reading and listening’) which girls out preformed boys.
for all that girls on phonics out preformed girls on whole language, at least this way girls were doing better than boys was the thought.
Well it turns out that if boys really don’t learn how to learn how to read in elementary they really don’t ever learn how to read. TV replaces books really fast.
Recess:
Boys (and some girls) need to play to learn better, but aren’t allowed ‘aggressive’ play and in a growing number of schools there’s no recess at all. and are required to sit in a desk for 8 hours day. This leads to all sorts of misbehavior -which when you add in the fact that 73% of elementary teachers are women being taught that boys that act out need to be disciplined and ‘must learn to respect women now or they never will’, that pilling is a solution….
you end up with boys being diagnosed with ‘developmental disorders’ (ADD, ADHD, ODD…etc) at a 2x-5x the rate of girls.Add both together and you have a rising rate of boys dropping out of class, being pushed into Special ED, becoming delinquent, not being able to process upper level english skills, and overall being a ball of fail.
There’s pushback by feminists on this. They insist that it’s all actually misogyny(but actually hurting boys), that only ‘conservatives’ are presenting the data(not true) ‘maybe girls are just smarter’(oh gods do we even have to go there), ‘oh but this effect inner city boys even more than suburban is must be a race thing’(race increases marginalization you say?). and whole bunch of whine about the ‘greater patriarchy’(red herring).All that really needs to happen is an affirmative action on male elementary teachers(feminists can’t decide if they actually want this-men benefiting? but destroying the notion that teaching is ‘women’s work’ hmm…) Bringing back phonics(easy) and bringing back a long or a pair of short recesses (idiots think it’s a ‘waste of time’-are wrong)
easy enough right?
My psych teacher told me yesterday that if you hold a boy back a year then the differences in grades almost completely vanishes, because boys—SHOCKER!—develop differently than girls, and vice-versa.
So if you put you daughter into kindegarden when she’s 5, then you should wait till your son is 6-7 to put him in the same class. People may not realize, but those “short” time differences make a world of a difference in developmental ability.
Same thing with having two 30-minute recess breaks a day. That helps bolster young men’s marks as well. Boys need more room and time to burn off excess steam than girls. If you give them that extra room and time, then BAM! Marks go up.
Our society has taken to this ideology that all children and all people learn the same way, and at the same rate; this is undeniably false.
-Liv
Okay so I just had a brief discussion with my mother about gender neutral words. Her opinion on the matter was that she didn’t like them because they would diminish the gap between the genders and the child would have nothing to identify with, and thus they would “turn out wrong” as she so elegantly put it.
“It’s ok to objectify guys, they’re guys, they don’t care.”
“Guys can’t get raped, they never don’t want sex.”
“Men should be the ones to do the asking.”“Men should always pay on a date.”
“It’s okay for me to be sexually attracted to watching two gay men have sex, but not for men to be attracted to lesbians.”
“It’s impossible for men to be victims of domestic violence, they’re bigger and stronger than women!”
“Sexual predators are always men.”
Deserves attention.
This needs more attention.
I support these men, not just women in similar situations ♥
Domestic violence knows no gender boundaries.
It’s wonderful that this has so many notes.
Domestic violence is awful, no matter what genders are involved :C
One time I was scolded for mentioning the fact that men get abused too after my supervisor failed to mention it. While giving a tour of the domestic violence shelter I worked at. (“You aren’t supposed to talk during training, just watch.”)
Found out last week my brother’s wife has been physically assaulting him for years in addition to the mental and emotional abuse she’s put him through. He’s always just stood there and took it - hasn’t laid a finger on her in return. He finally had enough and called the cops. Now he’s without a place to live - his mother-in-law kicked him out of the house - he sleeps in his truck and showers at my dad’s (he lives in a retirement community, so my brother can’t stay there). My heart hurts for him, and I have no idea what to do to help.
Ok this is making me feel some kinda way
yes, this is definitely a thing that does need to be talked about, and it is definitely okay too, just so long as we don’t try and compare it or put it on the same level as domestic violence towards women. Domestic violence definitely goes both ways but at different levels of severity and consistency.
^^^ what I failed to say
yes, this is definitely a thing that does need to be talked about, and it is definitely okay too, just so long as we don’t try and compare it or put it on the same level as domestic violence towards women. Domestic violence definitely goes both ways but at different levels of severity and consistency.
^^ Why the hell not? The way I see it, it is violence no matter how you think about it, and it is just as terrible when women abuse their boyfriends/husbands as when men abuse their wives/girlfriends. I’m all for women standing up for themselves when people act sexist, but please don’t do the whole reverse-sexist/super-feminist thing.
There is absolutely no reason why we should view it any differently when a man is assaulted by a woman. Women have spent ages trying to prove we are just as good as men at everything: we are just as strong, as intelligent, as anything as a man. We need to stop playing the “It’s different for us, we’re women” card in situations like this! Why should anyone be less empathetic to a man who’s been abused by his wife/girlfriend compared to a woman who’s been assaulted?
It’s because society views male victims as weak and pathetic. “oh, that guy, he lets his wife/girl toss him around.” That’s the reaction we normally give men that admit to domestic violence. We pity the women who are abused, because historically men have always been the ones in power and with the power to abuse in most societies, while women are often viewed as the delicate, fragile victim to the men in their lives. In reverse situations, we sometimes hold the women in esteem for not letting the guy order her about, for taking a stand for herself, and we fail to recognize that this is in fact abuse.
This is not even to mention that the rate of domestic violence against men versus women is approximately equal. Statistics often report numbers based on police reports, and men are often less likely to report being abused by a woman (often for the reason I stated above—they don’t want to be viewed as weak or pathetic). Surveys report that men are the victims of domestic violence 35-50% of the time (and this is backed by scientific evidence; look it up if you don’t believe me: the link acidshenko gave is one of a few good resources).
And please don’t give me the whole difference of severity. I personally know more than one woman who could take on any man larger than she and emerge victorious. There’s plenty of evidence to support the fact that women can be just as violent as men, and can cause just as much damage as a man in a fight. (Tumblr loves the posts about self-defense, particularly for women; I know I’ve reblogged more than one of those posts myself).
The fact of the matter is that no one should have to put up with being abused, or be afraid of being ridiculed for reporting abuse. I don’t care if the victim is male or female. Abuse should not happen. Period.
I like this response..
Wow… only one misandrist replied.
There IS hope!
please read the whole thing people
6 Ways to Talk to Your Son About Male Violence and Healthy Masculinity
Boys as young as 4 year old are told to “be a man!”, usually in response to them crying or showing fear.
And as they grow up, they’re bombarded with messages that say to be a “manly” man, they need to:
- Be big and strong
- Be physically aggressive and ready to fight
- Show no emotions – especially fear or pain but anger is just fine
- Feel entitled to objectify women and sexually pursue women regardless of whether or not she’s interested
It doesn’t take a leap of faith to see how this history has led to our society and media promoting images of masculinity as inherently obsessed with fighting and sex.
And then having some men turn that image into a reality where they feel entitled to be assault and dominate others, particularly women.
So many men are caring, responsible, and non-violent people. But while many men don’t use violence to express their feelings or control others, many don’t feel comfortable showing the other sides of them for fear of being called “gay”, “girly”, “soft,” or “emotional”.
That’s why we need to change the conversation around masculinity. We need the definition of masculinity to reflect the diversity present in men beyond the narrow box they have now.
I suggest all females watch this.
*i suggest all humans watch this.
If you haven’t watched this yet, you really should.
This is a must, girls and boys.
I agree that everyone should watch this. This is one of the few videos on female representation in the media that at least tries to point out that the way females are represented has a negative effect on everyone, not just women.
I love that this`touches also on how media affects men, but wow. Stereotypes are perpetuated by television more than in reality, and they are so skewed because they have to be provocative or funny or any number of things that aren’t complete or real enough.
This affects not only women and men, but race, gays and lesbians, trans people, all people.
We all struggle against what we are supposed to be, what we are told we should be, and yet when positions in media and PR change, the image doesn’t. Because people get those positions by conforming to that image, and breaking out risks loss.
This is why it is so hard for anyone to be who they really are, because they are so busy being what other’s expect so as not to be harassed for not being what they are supposed to be.
Oh man, Geena Davis. I love her with all -y heart.
All my followers should watch this video
Everyone needs to watch this and see how harmful misrepresentation and perpetuating harmful stereotypes are not just to a minority group, but to everyone.
Only by adapting a new way of thinking, by treating everyone equally, and even eroding gender roles, can we influence our peers and perpetuate something good.
GENDER EQUALITY FROM BOTH SIDES FOR ONCE.
This poster hung in every room of my high school.
I don’t normally reblog much, but fucking thank you.
The oppressions of sexism are varied, but they are a universal, inherently human condition.
ACTUAL EQUALITY, NOT JUST CATERING TO FEMALES. THANK. GOD.
i have been looking for something like this for a while. straight on my blerg.
Omg you need to WATCH THIS TED TALK RIGHT NOW
It’s (almost entierly non-problematic) feminist: yes
It talks about social ques given to children through kid’s movies and the whole Magical Quest trope: yes
It talks about raising boys to respect women in a way that’s not just chilvarly: yes
It’s written by a man: yes
Watch, listen and learn, because this guy knows what he’s talking about. It’s important to teach the right lessons to both girls and boys.
This is fantastic, funny, and extremely true. Both girls and boys need to learn together that they’re equal, not just “girls can be powerful” and “boys can be powerful”. take a sec to watch this, dashboard!
A great watch. Share with your friends.
