pixelatedpixie:

• it is hurting someone
• your child, specifically, who should not be hurt by you of all people
• it doesnt work in the long term
• it develops trust issues
• it is reliant on fear, and teaches them to be afraid instead of actually learning what they did and how to self-discipline (i.e., “mommy spanked me when i tried crossing the road by myself, so i shouldn’t do it in front of her so i don’t get spanked” instead of “mommy told me i could get hurt if i cross the road by myself, so i won’t do it”)
• it asserts the ideology of stronger = right, and that because someone hurts you they are correct
• it shows that violence solves issues, which causes your child not only to normalize violence, but to partake in it
• it disregards bodily autonomy (as in people not touching you without your consent)
• it hurts their self-esteem, as well as affects their mental health, and their intelligence
• it becomes a gateway to harsher abuse due to desensitization
• it creates detachment of the parent/child bond
• it normalizes degrading and harmful behavior on the parent’s end
• it continues on the cycle of abuse
• it’s just overall shitty don’t hit someone, especially not someone who is smaller than you, defenseless, and VERY easily affected by it ok just don’t