Things that ARE okay:

• Portraying Tony and Notebook as cisgendered heterosexuals
• Portraying Tony and Notebook as genderfluid asexuals
• Portraying Tony and Notebook as any gender identity or sexual orientation
• Preferring one portrayal of Tony and Notebook’s gender identity or sexual orientations over another
• Telling people to tag their DHMIS and Padlock
• Being uncomfortable with a portrayal of the relationship between Tony and Notebook for one reason or another
• Telling people that their portrayal of the relationship between Tony and Notebook makes you uncomfortable for one reason or another
• Encouraging people to not use words that may be seen as slurs when describing a portrayed relationship between Tony and Notebook
• Portraying Tony and Notebook in any sort of relationship that is consensual on both sides

Things that are NOT okay:

• Verbally attacking people for their portrayal of Tony and Notebook’s gender identity, sexual orientation, or relationship
• Threatening people for their portrayal of Tony and Notebook’s gender identity, sexual orientation, or relationship
• Saying other people’s uncomfortable feelings about a portrayal of Tony and Notebook’s relationship are unjustified
• Denying people who ask you to tag your DHMIS and Padlock

That’s pretty much all there is to it.