so not only did she not take what you said about how you feel into account, but she also invaded your privacy. i am very quickly coming to dislike this woman.
then i suppose thats something to take into account, but it by no means absolves her of any responsibility. you’re still getting hurt by it- you said yourself, it’s abuse.
is there anything you can do? this is starting to sound like, excuse me, a situation you need to get out of, at least for the moment.
what do you think you need to do?