even above and beyond the totally fallacious idea that a girl owes you her romantic interest in exchange for being treated with basic decency.
It’s got this absolutely toxic undertone to it in the idea that of course you’re after her romantically, you were nice to her. It suggests that it would be utterly unthinkable for you to treat a girl as a friend or an equal if you weren’t actively trying to get into her pants.
What the fuck?