if someone you’re very close to needs you to use new pronouns to refer to them, your bond should be important enough to you that you make that effort

if someone you’re not very close to needs you to use new pronouns to refer to them, you barely even know them and it’s not difficult for you to make that effort

if you’ve noticed that this is a catch-22 where the only option is for you to make an effort to use trans people’s pronouns that’s because it is