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horrorbisexual:

the frustrating thing about biphobia is how casual it is and how most people perpetuate it without even giving it a second thought. like i’ve come out to two men that i’ve entered into romantic relationships with since knowing i was bi and both times there was the surprise and then the questions that were both incredibly invasive AND incredibly insensitive. like if i’ve been with a girl (no) and the follow up to this—how i could know i was bi if i’ve never been in a relationship with a girl. or if i had to choose who would i have a threesome with, AND if I’d be interested in eventually having a threesome with the person i was coming out to and someone else. if i’ve ever cheated on someone or if i ever would. like im so tired of this.

first of all this idea that everyone is entitled to a bi person’s sexual history, and that if they don’t feel like sharing their history or don’t have experience that the person prying deems bi enough on its own then obviously the person coming out is just misdirected. and then the idea that not only is everyone entitled to bi people’s sexual history, but also to their sexual preferences! intensely personal questions like what bi people prefer to do in bed is not something that you would ever ask a straight person upon finding out they were straight. it’s incredibly insulting and frustrating to find that even people who are supposedly progressive and open to the idea of bi people being actual people tend to fall back on these stereotypes that paint us as nothing but sexually deviant at best and as mere sexual objects at worst.

it’s shameful and makes my skin crawl to think that these negative stereotypes are what first come to everyone’s mind when someone mentions bisexuality. bisexuality is not inherently sexually deviant or dishonest or strange. it’s just a sexuality. and i wish that more people would be mindful enough to respect that, especially when coming in contact with a bi person who feels comfortable enough to come out to them and is then treated like a harmful stereotype.

non-bi people can reblog this.