What do you actually consider cat calling?
people looking in your general direction, duh
any unwanted attention like whistles or comments especially the ones that make a person feel uncomfortable
How can you know it’s unwanted?
because I don’t fucking want it
Well okay but how can you know that another woman wouldn’t want it?
How are random people supposed to know a comment on your appearance will psychologically destroy you?
There’s a line.
“I like your dress!” is acceptable. “You! In the red blouse! You’re gorgeous!” is also acceptable. “I like how your dress clings to your ass, sexy!” is NOT acceptable. “You! In the red blouse! Nice tits!” is also not acceptable.
Let’s put it like this.
If your “compliment” refers directly to:
- a person’s ass
- their genitals
- their breasts (or lack thereof)
- how much you want to have sex with them
- how you want to have sex with them
- wanting to have sex with them against their will
- seeing certain parts of that person’s anatomy (sexual or not) in a specific, sexual act
- calling the person a name that is considered ‘degrading’ or involves profanity
- ‘pet names’ on a stranger
then it is not a compliment, it is catcalling, and consequently, is harassment.
So as I was saying. There’s a line. “Hello, beautiful.” is alright. But “Hello, beautiful. Those lips look perfect for sucking my cock.” has crossed that line.
Do not cross the line.
Here’s a good litmus test: Would you pay a woman the same “compliment” if your mom was standing right next to you?
If not, keep your mouth shut.Here’s another test: would you say it to your mom? If not that’s probably because you’re doing something creepy and/or overtly sexual.
Telling your mom she looks gorgeous or has a nice dress on is a legitimate compliment on a person’s appearance. Remarking on your mom’s ass, tits or acts you’d like to perform with/to her is a cat call and is no better said to a stranger than to your mother.
I’d like to add that, even if your comment is simply “You look beautiful.” and the person does not respond favorably too it just leave them alone. They don’t have to take your compliment, however well meant it is.
another thing i would like to add: if the girl is/looks/seems underage and you are a grown fucking man DONT SAY ANYTHING!!!! I DONT CARE HOW ‘WELL MEANT’ IT WAS. WE ARE CHILDREN AND WE DONT NEED THAT SHIT
A general rule of thumb: If you wouldn’t want a gay guy saying it to you in a gay bar, chances are she doesn’t want you...
I feel like these are such basic manners, the idea that you have to learn that shouting “nice tits!” Across the street...