i think posts like “you’re deserving of love even if you have xy symptoms, u dont need to change yourself for someone!” come from a good place and are even true in a Lot of senses, esp on the surface level, but like… i feel like sometimes they kind of stop short of necessary self-awareness. like, sometimes symptoms DO make us hard to be in a relationship with, and like… we genuinely do need to work on those things, if we can, you know? yeah, my being emotionally distant ain’t my fault, but i also get that if i don’t put any emotional labor into a relationship i can’t seriously expect any back, u know.
like self-love is important… its nigh impossible to get anywhere near self-improvement if we’re too overwhelmed by self-hate. i know, i’ve been there! but like… it’s important to know that some level of working on ourselves, of compromising in a relationship, is not only good, but its also very normal! relationships r give & take my friends
As a human being, I deserve love regardless of my symptoms.As human beings, the rest of the population is NOT obligated...