-shitty fedora man asking “CAN I HAVE YOUR PHOTO, MISTRESS” when i was wearing something kind of revealing and passed well besides for my voice (he clearly had no idea what fandom i was from and just wanted to get off to the photo later). i said yes and once he clocked me he went “it IS a MISTRESS i am talking to correct” and i said yes again. he asked me like three more times throughout taking the photo before he finally went away
-snapback-wearing trans bro and his friend at a meetup asking me if they could “borrow my dick”
-second trans man, this time my roommate, going off on a tangent while i was in the room about how much easier it was to be transfeminine
-this one actually hurt
-someone’s friend apologetically telling me, without me asking, that the only reason she clocked me was because of my voice and what i could do to improve it
-thank god i wasnt cosplaying a girl when this happened but this shitty dude in a Teemo hat at ACEN last year started complaining about “traps” and asking this other (presumably cis) girl next to me if she was a trap and he eventually stopped after someone nearby was like “transgenders cant help it”. afterwards teemo hat man gave an excuse about how we trick people and need to be “watched out for”
anyway!! this is probably why i’ve only met four other trans women over my entire time at conventions (and only two of them actually cosplay) and no one wants to fucking talk about it but us so i figured i’d at least raise awareness