but really i feel like so many writers see tony as he’s depicted in the tabloids of the marvel universe and turn him into a caricature of that rather than something more consistent with his personality in his earlier solo series. i mean, for fuck’s sake, he risks his own life to save the lives of others all the time, and yet we’re supposed to be believe he’s a smarmy douchebag who only cares about sex and power? how does that make any sense? if tony only cared about himself, he wouldn’t be iron man, a hero, and he wouldn’t be anyone’s knight in shining armor–something he wanted to be since he was a kid.
it’s the same with avac–i’m being told that tony is slacking off and he’s unfit to be a hero and he just spends all his time flirting with girls, and yet, in actuality, he’s doing a ton to help out the academy even when he’s scared. but that doesn’t fit the perception that everyone already holds of him, so it’s ignored for the most part. admittedly, part of that stems from the fact that he plays this up, but as jan implies, he fakes it a lot.
this even ties into that deleted scene from IM1 (which is admittedly kinda cringey) in which he tells the women that he’s planning to ditch to go stop terrorists that he feels like he could never outrun his own reputation even when it wasn’t what he wanted. he’s playing to expectations.
it seems like jan is the only one paying attention in avac–noticing that he’s upset, pointing out to nat and the player that he’s actually really sensitive, refusing to let him just continue to electrocute himself and work instead of talking, etc. (and i’m not saying they should pay attention to him, but what i’m being told simply isn’t what i’m seeing.)
but i guess it comes down to the fact that tony wants to do good, even if he doesn’t seem to be good according to most people. he’s already decided he’s willing to make that sacrifice anyway, so i guess it fits.