hedwig-dordt:

inqueersitorpaye:

knightfrog1248:

yellowxperil:

srsly tho this is absolutely a thing that dudes do all the fucking time

like where if he knows a grl doesn’t necessarily want to give him a hug, he will trap her in this position in front of witnesses where she has 2 options- both of which are undesirable for her, while simultaneously desirable for him

if she doesn’t want to hug him, whatever she does, it will suck for her.

she can 1. say nah and be the fucking asshole in front of other ppl or 2. forsake her corporeal boundaries and allow unwanted intimate contact

it’s a fucking trap

Say: “You make me feel uncomfortable so I don’t want to be intimate with you.”

You realize that that doesn’t actually solve the problem, that will still make women look like assholes for denying someone a hug, especially since any variation of that statement will most likely be met with extra hostility and guilt tripping and assholery, of which the woman would receive no sympathy for enduring coz “she could’ve just given him a hug and gotten it over with.”

If a man is shitty enough to corner a woman into giving him physical contact and intimacy, you can bet your entire ass that he will follow up a decline, especially any iteration of “you make me feel uncomfortable”, with more guilt tripping and mental/emotional manipulation, and this time he will more often than not have the support of the friends and acquaintances witnessing it.

It’s still a trap.

Side with women in that scenario, ESPECIALLY if you’re a man.
“DUDE, she doesn’t know you, lay it of!”
“Obviously not, you needy jerk”
“Yo bro, I’ll hug you”