I feel like almost all of the guys who’ve had an unreciprocated thing for me developed it because I listened to them and was emotionally supportive, etc., but they themselves never thought to do the same for me. Which ended up with this weird situation where I knew them super well but they literally had zero idea about who I was as a person other than “listens really well and is emotionally supportive.”
Like, they didn’t know the first thing about what was important to me, my beliefs, my family, my work, how I spent my time when I wasn’t with them. Because not a single one of them wanted to know. They would just… never ask, or they’d ask politely and when I started to answer they’d show extreme disinterest and change the subject back to themselves.
But they still thought they loved me, because to them that’s all love is - being emotionally supported by someone. It did not even occur to them that the support could ever go both ways, and they were always bewildered about why I never loved them “back” - even though all they gave me to love was a person so self-obsessed that he couldn’t see me at all.
Emotional labour is so, so important to be aware of in relationships. It has to have some kind of balance, or the person performing it will just burn out. And a relationship consisting only of one person demanding and demanding and never giving back is not love. Love is not a demand. It can accept, and it can ask, but love listens, love cares about how its requests affect the beloved. Love wants to give back.
I honestly cannot wait for the days when me and the person I’m with go grocery shopping. We can get all our favorite snacks for the house, try new foods and different things for dinner. And just I don’t know, I love thinking about that and I can’t wait for it
"I wish I knew every single language in the world so I could experience everything. One language and one culture are not enough for the complexity of my mind."
>do NOT have unwrapped goodies (ex. An apple, a gumball) >do NOT have goodies distributed in a container that does not have the corresponding logo on it (ex. jellybeans in a metal tin, Fruit Rollups in a plastic baggie >do NOT have goodies whose wrappers/bags/boxes are easily opened and closed again (ex. Tootsie Rolls, Smarties/Rockets, Starbursts, Rolos) >do NOT drink ANY liquid substances >do NOT have goodies while you are still out trick-or-treating—ALWAYS have an adult check first
BE SAFE!!!!
who the FUCK DOES THIS
when i was 12, i got home after trick or treating and i found a needle in a mars bar, please check your candy and be safe
what is the name of this ghost power of Danny’s which existence we seem to have totally overlooked or forgotten about
i mean that is one nifty trick right there he even uses punctuation
i’m thinking about the uses of this power (yes i know it could just be pointdexter’s but i think we all concluded long ago danny’s like a sponge when he wants to be) and the only use i can think of is
