charamei:

ndelphinus:

just-shower-thoughts:

I’ve never met anyone who joined a religion because someone came to their door one day.

…Yeah…I have.  I know liberal Christians don’t like to think about this and all, but some Christians do prey on people who are at an emotionally weak point in their lives.  My grandmother (not the Catholic one) converted to some form of Protestantism (not sure which specifically) after my granddad died because he killed himself and at that point in time you couldn’t even be buried in a Catholic cemetery if you’d committed suicide.  The church ladies had been trying to convert the local Mexican population for years so after Granddad died they all went over at once and made sure she knew how welcomed she’d be with them.

Now, this was a woman who had just had her entire life turned upside down.  She hadn’t even had a chance to talk to her own priest yet.  Within hours of her husband dying she was descended upon by a bunch of women whose goal for decades had been to convert the Mexicans.  And, because my grandmother was obviously emotionally unprepared to deal with the potential arguments, they managed to get her to give up the religion she’d been raised in.

We like to act like only cults prey on the weak and alone.  In reality every religion that believes in proselytising does on some level or another.  If your church opens their soup kitchen or food pantry only to people who are willing to say a prayer or listen to a sermon, they are preying on people.  If your congregation only sends aid to missions or sister churches in foreign countries, they are preying on people.  The vast majority of what we consider “Christian charity” is in reality a form of religious coercion.  They are targeting people who have no other options and pretending that somehow they’re being altruistic.

This.

I live in an ex-council house right in the middle of a large estate, and I get considerably more missionaries and ‘Jesus loves you’ pamphlets through the door here than I ever saw in previous homes.

little bad memory things :)

melchiorgabor:

• not knowing if you said something out loud or if you only thought it
  
• “did i already ask you that?”
  
• “what did you say”
  
• raising your hand and putting it down multiple times in class because you can’t remember your question/comment
  
• pausing in the middle of simple tasks because you can’t remember what you’re doing
  
• “where is my [object i had in my hands literally 30 seconds ago]?”
  
• not knowing someone’s name even though it’s the 5th time you’ve met them
  
• rereading/rewatching books/movies because you can’t remember basic plot details
  
• forgetting to look at the list of things you need to remember
• forgetting the end of your sentence before you even start it/trailing off

if i ever meet my mutuals

maxeth:

ohtze:

anghraine:

cattusumbra:

sunsetofdoom:

Ok I love all the Kylo Ren jokes (human trashbag, complete monster, Emo Teen) but like

According to the novel Ben was ten years old when he left home to train with Luke, and fifteen when he destroyed Luke’s Jedi temple

So that means Snoke tempting him to the Dark Side would have involved a lot less offering untold cosmic power; and a lot more child-grooming, and subsequently absconding with a preteen boy

Idk about you but that skeeves me out

Oh noooooo

for bonus:

He had trouble believing what he was hearing. “So Snoke was watching our son.”

“Always,” she told him. “From the shadows, in the beginning, even before I realized what was happening, he was manipulating everything, pulling our son toward the dark side.”

We don’t know the details for sure, but if the movies go with this, Snoke was definitely grooming Ben from … infancy, pretty much.

There’s also that scene where Snoke tells Ben that he’s trained other people, but nobody like Ben because he’s special. D: D: D:

On a completely serious note, it actually 100% explains the tantrums. When you’re groomed from a really young age (and are hurt at a young age), your maturity in dealing with stressors can be developmentally delayed, and your ability to deal (in general) becomes extremely… fragile. You don’t develop proper coping mechanisms at a critical stage in your development, and even if you’re removed from the stressor your inability cope with them can affect you all throughout your adulthood. A lot of people lash out in anger, because lashing out in anger is what children do. They never really developed past that (mentally), which is kind of why Kylo/Ben acts like he’s 16 when he’s closer to 30. Honestly its pretty tragic.

tsukithewolf:

144cm:

let’s be friends with benefits. the benefits? you get to be friends with me

just-shower-thoughts:

Judging by all the great loot to be found in every dungeon-filled fantasy game, those worlds are filled with multiple races with tremendous respect for the dead, never disturbing their rest. Then you come along…

borderbetweencountries:

sapphicscience:

i’m tired of “how to help a partner with [x mental illness]” guides that assume that the other partner has no issues of any kind; i want more discussion of how to balance the differing mental health needs of multiple people in a relationship

So my partner and I have been together almost two years, and we both suffer from anxiety, BPD, and a handful of other mental illnesses, and here’s some things that help us out immensely.

communication is key. Tell your partner if you’re having a bad day. Listen when your partner says they’re having a bad day. It’s easier to be careful with someone when you know they’re already having a bad day. I can’t stress this enough - communication is always important in relationships; but it’s doubly so when one or both of you has a mental illness. You have to trust your partner to be able to be honest with you about what they’re feeling and how their illness is affecting them, and you need to be honest with them, too.

ask questions. If your partner is struggling, asking them questions to help you understand how to help them can be good. Remember that ‘I don’t know’ is a valid answer, and it is one that you can also give.

be reminders for each other. It can be super hard to remember to do simple things for yourself; it can be easier to remember to remind your partner to do them. My partner reminds me about medication, food, etc., and I do the same for him - it helps a lot.

use safewords. And I don’t mean in the kinky sense. My partner and I have a series of words that mean different things, because sometimes it can be hard to say ‘I’m swinging’ or ‘I’m having a panic attack’ or ‘this subject is upsetting me for x y z’ reason. It’s easier to say one syllable - ‘swing’ for rapidly cycling emotions, ‘count’ for panic attacks (so one of us can count breaths for the other). We have words that mean ‘drop this subject now’ and words that mean ‘please don’t touch me’. We also have hand signals for days when one or both of us are nonverbal, and we revert to texting on those days.

be willing to give each other space.  But don’t necessarily go far. If you need your space, tell your partner; if your partner needs their space, make sure they can still access you. 

acknowledge each other’s illness. Don’t pretend it isn’t there. Ignoring it doesn’t make it go away. Acknowledge that they’re there, acknowledge that sometimes they may come in conflict with each other, and learn how to take a step back when it becomes a problem.

call each other out. If your partner is repeatedly doing things that are detrimental to themselves/your relationship/you, call them on it. Don’t do it in an asshole way - just sit down with them and be like ‘hey, you’ve been doing this thing that is really sucky lately, and it needs to stop.’ Likewise, listen when you’re being called out. It’s really easy to get stuck in shitty loops when your brain is sick, and sometimes you don’t know what you’re doing ‘til someone points it out. This hurts! And it sucks! But it’s part of acknowledging your illnesses. It doesn’t do any good to let bad habits continue, even if there’s a reason they’re happening.

learn to forgive. When you’ve both got brain issues going on, it’s inevitable that people are going to say things they don’t mean, and that is going to hurt. The important thing is being able to recognize when you’ve messed up and apologize sincerely, and accept it when your partner apologizes.

These are just some things that work for us. Add to the list if you can and I hope this helps.