we opened at 11 this morning. i watched an old man literally pry the fucking sliding doors open at 10:43 and stand there just staring into the empty store and my coworker & i were like sir. for the love of fuck
You know, when I was a kid in fandom and I saw a popular ship of, say, a 16 year old and a 25 year old, I was like “of course there’s nothing wrong with this! Age is just a number! Besides, it’s only 9 years!!!”
But now that I am an adult, I’m on the other side of that age gap, and frankly I am disgusted. If you’re a teenager, trust me I get it- it’s really easy to see that as ok especially if your identified as “mature for your age” but let me tell you it is not. It is not ok for an adult to be in a romantic or sexual relationship with a child. At all. That adult is 100% taking advantage of that teenager and is competently aware of what they’re doing and it’s gross.
i think posts like “you’re deserving of love even if you have xy symptoms, u dont need to change yourself for someone!” come from a good place and are even true in a Lot of senses, esp on the surface level, but like… i feel like sometimes they kind of stop short of necessary self-awareness. like, sometimes symptoms DO make us hard to be in a relationship with, and like… we genuinely do need to work on those things, if we can, you know? yeah, my being emotionally distant ain’t my fault, but i also get that if i don’t put any emotional labor into a relationship i can’t seriously expect any back, u know.
like self-love is important… its nigh impossible to get anywhere near self-improvement if we’re too overwhelmed by self-hate. i know, i’ve been there! but like… it’s important to know that some level of working on ourselves, of compromising in a relationship, is not only good, but its also very normal! relationships r give & take my friends