When I worked at a mental health crisis centre, I couldn’t believe how many people came to us, not because of their own problems, but because they were so lost in a friend’s pain that they couldn’t take it anymore. I saw a lot of people who were so worn down from helping someone else that they couldn’t sleep, eat, socialize or focus at work or school. They were consumed with guilt every time they put down their phones, went to sleep, or dared to enjoy themselves and have a good time. All because they had no idea how to set boundaries.
Helping your friends through a tough situation is a wonderful and noble thing to do, but it only works if you’re mentally in a place to do so. If you’re dealing with issues or mental illness of your own, you’re not always capable of being someone else’s shoulder to cry on 24/7. And that’s okay. Sometimes, you have to put yourself first. You can’t help someone else if you’re a mess yourself. You can’t save a drowning person with a sinking ship.
Telling a friend that you’re overwhelmed and you need a break is one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. Honesty is the best policy - don’t go radio silent on them, or avoid answering their messages. Be honest about how you’re feeling, and what you need from them. If you’re stuck on what to say and how to start the conversation, here are a few suggestions. Feel free to copy them exactly:
It’s really hard for me to admit this, but I’ve been feeling like I’m on the verge of a breakdown lately. I love you and I care about you, but I need to take some time to take care of myself for a while.
I’m really concerned about you, but I honestly don’t know how to deal with this and I’m worried I’ll say the wrong thing. I really think that you should talk to a professional about this.
This is hard for me to admit, but I have a lot going on in my life right now, and it’s getting to be too much for me. Would it be okay if we talked about lighter stuff for the next little while?
You deserve more support than I can give you. I think you need to tell a close family member or professional about what’s going on.
It seems like every time we talk about this, things are worse for you. I’m worried that my advice isn’t helping you at all, and I think you should talk to someone more qualified than me.
I’m really worried for your safety, and it breaks my heart, but I can’t keep you safe all by myself. Would it be okay if we told someone else what was going on?
I’m sorry, but I can’t answer my text messages 24 hours per day. I really want to make sure that you always have someone to turn to if I’m not available. Are there some other people you would trust with this? I can help you tell them, if you’re not comfortable doing it by yourself.
I hope these suggestions are helpful - best of luck to all of you, and make sure to put your own mental health first when you have to.
My naem is doge And wen is nite And wen the moon Is shinying brite I undertake A dang'rous mission I sneek into The darkened kitcheyn I clymb upon The dyning table As quick and quietly As i am able If i am caught There will be yellin’ So secretly I lik the melon
POINT OF ORDER: blue goldstone is not a rock. It is glass with copper inclusions and that makes it even more awesome because we are NEVER going to run out of it, and it’s not mined and it is so amazing to work with if you’re devoted to Urania. Similarly red goldstone is an AMAZING Prometheus stone, because using fire to make it.
^^^^ THANK YOU FOR STILL SAYING HOW COOL IT IS YOU ARE A WONDERFUL PAGAN.
Do you guys think we could ever live in a world without any crime? In high school, I had this discussion with my sociology teacher, and one theory was no, we can’t. Even if we had a world without murder, rape, and all that, the definition of crime itself would change in the hypothetical community. So perhaps something like dropping plates will have as much penalty as murder. And by this theory, a Utopian community can never exist.
As one of my favorite professors says “in a society of saints, everyone is a sinner”
Damn I could have told you this. Just come live at my house where none of the kids do drugs, sneak out, got pregnant but we’re still bad children for suffering from mental illnesses and not washing dishes right away
imma need someone at the white house to take one for the team and leak an audio tape of trump saying the n word bc this impeachment process is taking too long
or him pretty much saying whatever tf he says behind closed doors bc I can only imagine how terrible his big mouth is beyond the Twitter fingers
Lemme introduce you to @RoguePOTUSStaff, a Twitter-account run by White House-employees of all the shitty things they’d heard Trump say. It’s appalling, honestly,
Trump on Tuesday asked a prominent anti-vaxxer to lead a commission on vaccine safety.
Robert F. Kennedy Jr., son of Bobby Kennedy, said he agreed
to lead the commission, which will seek to ensure there is “scientific
integrity in the vaccine process for efficacy and safety effects,” Kennedy said.
Kennedy believes vaccines have led to a rise in autism, a claim that’s been debunked by doctors and scientists.
Kennedy told reporters Tuesday that Trump “has some doubts about the current vaccine policies.” Read more
50+ million are going to lose healthcare and then they’re going to weaken herd-immunity and create a spike in illness we haven’t seen in decades.
Oh my god
I’m having a hard time articulating my thoughts right now but
as an autistic woman, I am begging my allistic (non-autistic) friends and their followers to read this and pass it on. this isn’t anything new, we’ve been dealing with antivaxxers for years, but I’m terrified seeing that monster act like my neurotype makes me a walking bubonic plague. the world already thinks I shouldn’t exist as it is. this cannot be allowed to stand.
