colds:

unsends:

poeticsuggestion:

affectionsuggestions:

Let’s get rid of the idea that someone has to talk to you 24/7 to like you or even love you. I know how it feels to want to talk to someone all day but life takes different turns. Patience.

I have bpd, amanda.

WE CANT ALL BE NEUROTYPICALS LIKE YOU KAREN

i have BPD too and this thought process was my downfall lol. i have been in multiple unhealthy relationships and have been miserable bc of this! OP isnt making a radical statement- this is true! it took me years to realize that someone doesnt need to talk to me 24/7 to like me. in fact, they have their OWN life and are allowed to have other friends and its unhealthy to expect them to dedicate all of their time to me.

i would get so angry when my favorite person wasnt talking to me but now i realize its unfair to both of us to expect them to be able to talk all the time. and yep, this site made it seem like me begging this person to talk to me constantly and get angry at them for having a life is normal and healthy. it isnt! it isnt “neurotypical” to let people have their own lives. its still hard for me! but you can ask for reassurance and remind yourself that its not healthy to expect someone to be able to talk to you 24/7. its hard, i know, but stop saying healthy behaviors are “neurotypical” and stop normalizing unhealthy behaviors that often can turn abusive (yes, getting pissed off at your partner for having a life or talking to people that arent you IS emotionally abusive behavior)

HOW ABOUT WE DON’T HURT REAL PEOPLE OVER FICTIONAL SHIPS

eclaire-de-lune:

Warning for needles, links to disturbing images

[Tweet: A fanartist was offered hand made cookies at a con. Only to find out they have needles inside and pierced her tongue]

The fanartist in question is Avimedes, a Taiwanese fanartist who draws primarily for Undertale. On May 10th she posted on her Plurk (warning for images with blood, needles) that she was given cookies as a gift; she ate one and a needle pierced her tongue. 

Here is a translation of her post:

Warning, these photos contain a lot of blood.

I’m very sorry that I haven’t had a chance to say my thanks (for the convention?) and I am venting. But I received a needle in my dessert gift from the convention. Thank you, I have one more piercing now.

I am not trying to ask for comfort, I am only trying to tell everyone how serious is this matter, so do not comfort me.

This matter is unable to be investigated and hopeless to be investigated. This matter has made me lost of trust towards something, but from today onwards, I will not be accepting any more handmade food by others.

Any more follow up and notice will be posted(if there’s any), thank you for your attention.

From discussion (Twitter, Reddit) it seems likely that she was given these cookies because she draws Sans/Frisk art, and a “fan” decided that drawing a ship they didn’t like was worthy of attempted murder. Had Avimedes swallowed the needle it could have done considerable and possibly irreparable internal damage. 

So I will say this again: DO NOT HARM REAL PEOPLE OVER FICTIONAL ENTITIES. I don’t care what the content is. These purity crusades need to STOP. The amount of vitriol and anger that the anti-shipping circles not only accept but encourage is dangerous, unhealthy, and unless stopped will lead to more people being hurt. There’s already been at least one incident of an artist being harassed into a suicide attempt. 

Your moral indignation/righteous anger/upset feelings DO NOT justify the injury or death of other people. You have every right to protect yourself from viewing objectionable content, but that right stops far, far short of hurting other people. Going on these crusades DOES NOT HELP against the sort of issues that are purportedly being championed; it only causes more harm. We need to break away from this mindset, from purity culture, before someone is permanently injured or dies.   

FICTION =/= REALITY
STOP HURTING PEOPLE