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hahahahhhAHAHAHAHhahahahahhahahah WHO IS PAYING FOR OUR TAMPONS, PADS, ULTRA SOUNDS, PAP SMEARS, OB/GYN VISITS, BRAS, CLOTHES, MAKE UP, HAIR PRODUCTS TO GO ON DATES WITH FUCKERS LIKE YOU?
i am openly admitting to loving disney movies but i am also openly admitting theyre a completely shitty company in terms of progressive ideas for racial diversity
the worst way for friendships to end is for literally nothing to go wrong, you just stop talking. they stop messaging you to see how youre doing and you get sick of being the first one to initiate conversation so you just let the friendship go and wonder how that person is doing and never hear from them again
So, I acknowledge that the internet is one of the largest ways to make friends, and is in fact becoming a space where the majority of a person’s friendships are internet-based. Most of my closest friends I met off the internet.
But stop using your friends as crutches for your insecurity and inability to validate your own self-worth.
FRIENDSHIPS ARE NOT DETERMINED BY HOW MUCH TIME YOU DO OR DO NOT SPEND WITH THAT PERSON.
I have friends on this tumblr RIGHT NOW who I rarely speak to now a days, but they are my friends and I love them and if someone fucked with them I would be on that ass in a heartbeat. I love them for who they are and I treasure and value the times we’ve spent together. But people do drift apart for whatever reason. Not always but it does happen and that is not a bad thing NOR IS IT A FAILURE ON YOUR PART AS A FRIEND. STOP MAKING THINGS IN THEIR LIFE ABOUT YOU.
I have friends from waaaay back in my early RP days, twelve or thirteen years ago, that I have not spoken to in years. But I can promise you if we did have a chat, it’d be as if we had just spoken yesterday. Because friendships are about how you feel about one another, not about how much you jabber at each other.
If your automatic assumption that a friend no longer likes you because you aren’t talking as much as you used to, that is you pushing your negative thoughts on their actions. There could be any number of reasons why friends just sort of drift apart, but it’s only the end of a friendship if you allow it to be.
If you have so little faith in people caring about you, if you need constant validation in order to feel like you even have a friendship, no shit you’re going to feel miserable. If you’re going to have such strict requirements for maintaining a friendship, you are going to be very unhappy, because drifting apart just happens and it’srarely ever because of a fault on your end.
Seriously internet, stop playing these “Well let’s see how long it takes them to talk to me and if they don’t then they obviously don’t care” games on people. Stop testing your friendships and believe in them and in your own self-worth. The bonds of friendship go beyond the physical and beyond constant contact and attention. It is and should be something much deeper, and if you can’t see that because you’re playing psychic chicken with them then I’m sorry.
The reason I say this is because I have been blindsided on multiple occasions this year by this same shit, and I lost three friends because of it. I was tested in order to ‘prove’ that I cared about them and that’s awful. Don’t do that to people. And since I had no idea what was going on, nor did I know there was some sort of hidden meaning behind their actions, I did not react the way they wanted. Suddenly I’m being hit by long winded messages about how they’ve been feeling miserable for months on end while I thought everything was fine. They’d built up all of these negative thoughts surrounding what they believed were the inspiration behind my actions and none of them were true. I was lost and really frustrated because I can’t deal with something if I don’t even know what’s wrong until it’s blowing up in my face. That these people believed I should know, or that it was so obvious, is ridiculous. It’s obvious to them because they’re the ones stewing in their negative emotions and convincing themselves that’s the reality.
Don’t get it twisted, I’ve been on the other side of the fence, and almost lost my childhood best friend because of it. Because I wanted her to validate my existence and soothe my fears. Because I had grown up believing that people just tolerated me, and that they were my friends out of pity (yes, this is something I was told and it stuck with me for a long time). But do you see a trend? Me. My. I wanted. I needed. Where in there was consideration for my friend? Her life and what she was going through? Her own doubts and insecurities? How could I call myself her friend if all I cared about was what I wanted her to bring to me?
Good lord, THIS.
Is it so hard to believe that quiet people exist? That my not-talking is somehow a reflection on my friendship with you?
This isn’t the Sims where a relationship decays every day you go without talking!
I was called a Fat Bitch today. So instead of my usual “sushi rants” text post, I made a video post about it. Because fuck any man who thinks this is okay, that this is acceptable. Fuck this. Fuck that. I’m so furious I’m in TEARS.
EDIT: I am more than okay with this being reblogged since it’s fucking important, dammit. It’s not a fandom rant. It’s a rant about how society trains women to be resizeable fucktoys for men and if they dare step outside that line of “PERFECT PHOTOSHOP MODEL” then they’re “fat bitches” that men can’t fantasize about and it’s not okay. It is NOT okay.
Aww, you poor little baby, you’re furious that not everybody finds you attractive. I’ve been told that I’m “an ugly chink” or “your legs are too thin” and shit like that, but who fucking cares? Really? Can’t you just act mature and just walk away from it? And why are you assuming that “fat” is an insult?
I should not have to “act mature” by ignoring something that is disgusting. It is not about my being “fat” it is about the fact that men feel it is perfectly within their rights to demean a woman for not being what they would want to fuck. In this case? “FAT” was being used to insult me for not being what he wanted. He pulled up alongside me in his car and shouted fat bitch then drove off as fast as his car could go, clearly not intent on sticking around.
How dare you march in on my disappointment in his behaviorand tell ME to be the better person by responding MATURELY to what he displayed as infantile immaturity! NO. I WILL NOT. I WILL NOT “BE BETTER BY BEING QUIET.”
“You’re furious because not everyone finds you attractive.” YOU HAVE MISSED THE POINT. ENTIRELY. The point is not everyone needs to! The point is RESPECT. THE POINT IS THAT NOT ME OR ANY OTHER WOMAN SHOULD EVER HAVE TO DEIGN TO “IGNORE” THIS BULLSHIT FROM ANYONE.
MATURE? IF MATURE IS CONFRONTING A REAL AND DISGUSTING ISSUE RATHER THAN ACCEPTING IT QUIETLY AND WALKING AWAY THEN YOU HAVE NO CONCEPT OF WHAT MATURITY IS.
Get out. Just. Get out.
Well, sorry. Considering all the shit that I got for the reblog, I guess people just handle things differently. I just thought, if someone yelled that at ME from a car, what would I do about it? I would just assume that the man is a total douchebag and move on with my life, because if that’s how he continues to treat women, OR ANY PERSON IN GENERAL, then he won’t get very far in life, and I’d be the one with the last laugh. I understand that most people do not want to act passive when insulted, but what were you supposed to do? Chase after the car with a chainsaw? Hunt down the man and beat the shit out of him? Or maybe even make a 7 minute rant about him on youtube? OH YEAH, THAT’LL TEACH MEN NOT TO MESS WITH WOMYN POWR!
Are you even a real person? I’m asking you seriously. If you’re equating my angered, disgusted rant on youtube with “chasing down a car with a chainsaw” in regards to rational reactions, then you have far more issues than you realize.
Look. I’m not sure who hurt you or why you feel the need to barge in on someone who is upset to tell them to get over it…
But I feel sorry for you. Your complete lack of empathy likely means you spend a lot of time angry because you simply do not understand how people could be upset about the things that they are upset about.
This isn’t a simple complaint. This is an issue. This is a rot that is centered well below the line of acceptability and yet people are forced time and time again to accept this kind of behavior and to “ignore it.”
If we continue to ignore this behavior we are accepting it as “just being something that happens!”
I refuse to remain silent when I am attacked no matter how meaningless it may be to an outsider who thinks ignoring it is a simple matter.
My video is more about the people who this would absolutely destroy emotionally because they cannot feel the confidence that they deserve. Society keeps so many people down with the enforcing of “ignore insults.”
If you ignore something you are allowing it to persist.
I am taking this behavior, this disgusting bloated tick on society, and I am destroying it. I am telling it that not only does it have no power over me, but that it is okay to be angry about the fact it exists.
Lashing out at disgusting behavior does not make me or anyone else weak and I would kindly appreciate it if you would attempt to understand rather than to silence people who have been hurt or are upset at those who are being hurt.
I literally just said “I guess people handle things differently” which means that you don’t have to deal with things the same way that I do. (◡‿◡✿)
I’m sorry that I ever posted my opinion.
If you want to back pedal then back pedal with grace you infant. Admit you shouldnt’ have made the post because you can’t back up your fetid, ignorant shitpile of excuses. I’m sick of people like you.
You’re more than happy to pounce on someone who is angry about injustices in this world by decrying them as “a whiny bitch.” You dehumanize someone to the point where they are a dog when they have a point.
When I call someone an animal at least it’s because their behavior is comparable to one. The man who called me a fat bitch did so because I wasn’t a sexually compelling mate to him. I don’t even know this man. He just feels it’s okay to say “I WOULDN’T HAVE SEX WITH YOU” in the most base manner he can. I wouldn’t have sex with him, either! I don’t know him and his behavior makes it VERY apparent we would be incompatible!
But you know what? I take back him a dog. I take back calling him an animal. Why do I take it back?
Because you can train an animal to behave, to stop unwanted behaviors that could endanger or hurt others. You can train animals to respect you. But you can’t tell a piece of shit who demeans you to stop without others leaping over fence to tell you “JUST IGNORE IT OKAY GOD YOU WHINING COW, STOP DEHUMANIZING ALL MEN YOU BITCH.”
The man who demeaned me today wasn’t even an animal. He was scum.
So, yeah, back pedal faster. As long as you’re going backwards I won’t have to deal with you ever again.
Thank you, sushinfood, for re-affirming my fears of feminists.
yeah people who want to be treated with basic decency without having it treated like a chore sure are frightening huh
i dont know you sushinfood, but you are flawless and i look up to you.
