straight women who casually use the word “girlfriend” to refer to their platonic lady friends, i have nothing against you, but you make the world really confusing,
If you are a man who thinks it’s funny to make misogynist jokes purely to make your female friends uncomfortable/angry, then you are a misogynist. It is not “just a joke.” You literally are finding humor in the discomfort and dehumanization of women. You are not helping, you are not making satire. You are just being misogynist.
You know, I really believe the idea that we do shit like this to make ourselves feel good about having no real problems. I really do. Weak, pussified culture, reminds itself it’s all okay with fake problems.
beyonce has spoken at length about her use of the word “bitches” in that song and if you spent like five minutes on google you would know that
spousal rape is legal in approximately 33 of the 50 united states (including california)
THIS IS ALL PART OF THE SAME SYSTEM. THE DELIBERATE SILENCING OF LITTLE GIRLS BY CALLING THEM BOSSY PROMOTES SUBMISSION IN MARRIAGE TO THE POINT OF SPOUSAL RAPE. IT IS THE SAME SYSTEM. YOU CANNOT DISMANTLE ONLY PART OF PATRIARCHY BECAUSE IT IS ALL CONNECTED AND SELF-PROMOTING
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THIS IS ALL PART OF THE SAME SYSTEM. THE DELIBERATE SILENCING OF LITTLE GIRLS BY CALLING THEM BOSSY PROMOTES SUBMISSION IN MARRIAGE TO THE POINT OF SPOUSAL RAPE. IT IS THE SAME SYSTEM. YOU CANNOT DISMANTLE ONLY PART OF PATRIARCHY BECAUSE IT IS ALL CONNECTED AND SELF-PROMOTING.
“Two other people took my picture before you, so I was already popular.”
I know that some people said in the comments that this outfit was culturally appropriative, but just remember that you don’t know that someone isn’t a POC or biracial just by looking at them. Don’t assume other people’s races.
^ My immediate reaction was to be upset by this photo because, I’m sorry, I’m just so fucking sick of people stealing Asian outfits and making them cool or trendy. But then I thought that maybe she’s a mixed kid. If not, there’s a problem here, though.
Hi. I’m actually Japanese. Most of us LIKE when people find beauty in our culture. As long as nobody is disrespecting us or making a mockery of us, then there isn’t a problem, and if you think there is, then it seems that you are in favor of cultural segregation and that is causing more harm than good.
When I was in Japan, there were a lot of places where you could get done up in a kimono or the male equivalent and have your picture taken. No one cares.
Most Korean people I know are pretty delighted when foreigners wear hanbok, in a “oh, you are appreciating our culture! you look good in that” way. I have never actually heard or heard of people reacting negatively to non-Korean people wearing traditional Korean clothes, unless they were racist to begin with and would have objected to foreigners regardless of what they were wearing.
‘Appropriation’ is, I think, only appropriation when either it is done in a blatantly disrespectful way, or if the group whose clothes (etc) are being adopted is culturally marginalized to the degree where they themselves face discrimination when they wear those things.
Korean people, afaik, don’t give a fuck. When foreigners visit and wear our clothes, it’s in good fun by people who are usually appreciative of the aesthetic qualities of what they’re donning, and also because we ourselves have never faced discrimination for our nationality or traditional dress.
uhhh, basically, intent matters, context matters, people within the same community often have radically different ideas of what’s okay. But you know, I think the only Koreans I know who’d potentially care are the American-raised ones on liberal, activisty college campuses who are extremely well versed in the liberal, activisty language and rulebook.
Thank you!!
I also think it makes a difference in that the clothing is, you know, the actual thing and not some vaguely exotic knock-off like most people do with native american clothing. Like this is a legit, actual Kimono. There’s nothing really in the culture OF kimono that has rules about who wears this sort of thing when. Like…kimono literally means “thing you wear”. -shrug-
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Appreciation and Appropriation are not the same thing, lets keep that in mind :/
When I was in Japan, my friend’s (who’s family I was staying with) little sister and her friends insisted on I wear yukata… like all the time. I was like a giant dress up doll to them.
do me a favour. if a person wearing a long sleeved shirt or a sweatshirt and jeans on a hot day, don’t comment on it. don’t ask why they’re wearing it. don’t say anything at about it.
trust me, they know it’s hot, they know. but their reason for wearing what they’re wearing probably far outweighs the temperature outside.
