Reblog if you’re polyamorous/open to polyamory in the future/in a polycule or open to one/interested in polyamory
I want to see how many of us there are
And like if you think polyamory is okay, can be healthy, and doesn’t “go against human nature”
what’s a polycule
The group of people dating. Like, me, my partners, their partners, and etc is the polycule.
thats such a good idea though because aside from just not meeting minimum wage, i didn’t want to make my art entirely unaffordable for my fellow not-rich people
Maybe have a commission agreement that you retain the right to sell prints etc if not paid hourly… cause you deserve the money, and that’s honestly the only way I can think of recouping your hourly costs without increasing commission prices
How can you honestly claim to be a feminist if you say derogatory things about female sex workers and trans women???
Four people unfollowed me after I posted this lmao, if you don’t think that trans women and sex workers deserve respect and acceptance please follow suit
ive been seeing a post going around thats like “dont worry everybody, overwatch isnt 60 dollars!! thats just the origins edition, u can buy the base game for only 40 dollars which is much more affordable!! reblog to save a life” and im just over here in australia like tfw the base game is $70 aud
wheres that meme with the guy dressed as a flower begging to be peed on, asking 4 a friend
honestly have i talked about how this is the funniest meme ive ever laid eyes on? the one guys worried expression in the second panel contrasting with his friends bewildered one. the ellipsis. the capitalization on “not’. the betrayal. the dawning of realization on the first guys face when he realized he was going to kill this poor man. the unshaved face. the fact flower man is on his knees with his back arched. every aspect of this comic is working together in perfect harmony to make all my time spent on this website well-spent
being a female means needing to see 10 different doctors to get a proper diagnosis because they always think you’re exaggerating and/or lying
define proper diagnosis. I mean, does that just mean the diagnosis you want?
no :) it means going to 10 different doctors who disbelieved your symptoms until the 11th found cysts on your ovaries :) which may mean infertility :) sit on a cactus :)
I call bullshit
Of course you do. Like the first 10 doctors. 😒
I call bullshit on the story. If you think you have an issue you should see a specialist not just your PCP.
Like the 4 “specialists” I saw for the crippling numbness in my face and legs I had for over a year while they told me it was “stress”? When it was finally found that I had scars on my brain and spine? Those “specialists” we’re male neurologist who wouldn’t give me an MRI because “women stress too much”. Go fuck yourself.
MY SPINE WAS BROKEN FOR 2 YEARS BECAUSE MY DOCTORS TOLD ME I JUST HAD BAD CRAMPS AND REFUSED TO TAKE XRAYS. FUCK YOU AND YOUR ENTIRE LIFE. WHEN WILL BOYS REALIZE THEIR EXPERIENCES ARENT STANDARD???? I ALSO LOVE THIS IDEA THAT YOU CAN JUST GO TO A SPECIALIST WHENEVER YOU WANT LOL IF OUR PCP DOESNT BELIEVE US WHEN WE TELL THEM OUR SYMPTOMS THEY ARENT GONNA REFER US TO A SPECIALIST YOU FUCKING MOLDY WALNUT
My parents began noticing something large in my throat, saw a specialist….Guess what? Told me to lose some weight..even though I wasn’t overweight. I would have my period for weeks at a time. Was told that it was teenage hormones and stress.
Two fucking years later I attempted suicide they ran a battery of tests as required and bam! They find out that I have untreated Hashimoto’s. The “thing” was a goiter. Possible symptoms of an untreated thyroid disease is the goiter, unexplained weight gain, and depression. All they had to do was test my blood, but they said young people don’t have thyroid problems. 😒
-Allie
Ten years ago, my mother—who is a pretty tough cookie—started feeling both ridiculously wired, anxious, and incredibly emotional. Every doctor she saw told her she was going through early menopause, even though she was still menstruating. Her health declined to point where she was barely sleeping, losing weight, and crying constantly, which was a huge red flag because my mother never cries. Finally, she went to see another doctor 2.5 hours away who referred her to an endocrinologist. And what did the endocrinologist say? He diagnosed her with one of the most advanced cases of Grave’s Disease he had even seen, and said if she had gone just a few more months without being treated, she could have FUCKING DIED.
Also, it turned out that her thyroid levels had been moving out of the normal range in a progressive pattern for years, but nobody bothered to look at her past test results until after the diagnosis. They would just do a test, see that it was “in the normal range” and leave it at that. She could have caught it before she even had symptoms, instead of basically being accused of having hysteria.
i had a brain aneurysm/hemorrhage ten years ago, doctors still tell me im faking my disability BECAUSE YOU CAN TOTALLY FAKE LIMITED MOVEMENT OF THE LEFT SIDE
My sister had intercranial hypertension which was causing headaches, dizzy spells and loss of vision, and you know what the hospital told her? She was being a hysterical girl and making it up. A few weeks later she spent roughly a month in hospital and had several lumbar punctures to relieve her RECORD HIGH spinal pressure that was causing so much strain on her brain and optic nerves she was being sent blind.
Everytime I see this post (and it’s been a good 5/6 times), it has different stories and experiences of women who have been horribly mistreated by doctors and it just blows my mind that this is so big. It’s absolutely disgusting how terribly women are treated in the medical world and something needs to be done about that.
my friend lea had back pain, then pain in her legs and feet, and then numbness. despite seeing 7 different doctors over 2 years, by the time they found the cancer it was inoperable. chemo and radiation didn’t work. the cancer spread. she died and left behind a 5 year old daughter.
A few years ago I would go through spells where I literally could not stand on my own and I couldn’t get out of bed. I would be freezing and too weak to eat. I would keep having heart palpitations as well. I got up the money to go to a clinic and they told me it was just stress and to basically just work on chilling out. I saved up money for a few weeks to do this and I pretty much get a “chill out” from them.
As time went on it got worse, most noticeably the heart palpitations were happening almost constantly. I went again to a different clinic and was told it was normal and that it was probably stress. They did no tests, and they told me it would “just go away”.
Two weeks later I ended up collapsing going down some stairs, and at the hospital it was discovered that I had such severe anemia that my heart could barely keep up with trying to get enough oxygen to my body. I had developed left ventricular hypertrophy (my heart muscle is too big) and because of them ignoring me and dismissing me I’m at a much higher risk of heart attacks and stroke now.
I went to the doctor with severe intermittent pain in my upper right stomach area that was so bad I had to miss school. Despite the fact that my period has been on a regular 3 month cycle for years, and I still had two months left until my period, my doctor told me it was period related cramps and or indigestion. 2 months later I’m in the hospital getting my gallbladder removed. It was so obstructed that there was gangrene developing my my system.
So…everyone who’s given me shit for that one post (about medicine and equal treatment and shit) can just read this because I’m sick of defending my case.
Fuck doctors I mean they’re important but fuck doctors
tikkunolamorgtfo’s second part of their story about their mother with the thyroid issues happened for 16 years to mine. All the while she was dealing with exhaustion and migraines and work and looking after three kids. she went to so many different doctors who, again even though her levels were clearly rising, they did nothing about because they were still in the ‘normal range’ she recently after going to a lot and I mean a LOT of doctors found out she has a thyroid disease, I think hashimotos? oh and even after she was finally diagnosed their solution was medicine which would basically kill her thyroid and just make it worse.
Meanwhile all my issues were just hormones and and ‘periods are like that’ cause they’re meant to so bad that the pain alone causes you to vomit for 2 or so days, and their prescribed crap did nothing until guess fucking what I have a chronic illness that I’d probably had for years.
:)
Also it was a female doctor that finally properly diagnosed me and that was about 4ish years after it started?
We both kinda have issues with doctors now but we’ve found our own treatments which are helping
After listening to what Peridot had to say about Homeworld
in Gem Drill, I think I’m beginning to understand precisely what Homeworld’s
deal is, as well as why Rose and the Crystal Gems decided to rebel.
People assume that Homeworld is a cold, emotionless, evil
society where the upper echelons are comprised entirely of sadists who kill and
torture lower-class Gems for funsies. They assume that their attempt to destroy
Earth was done out of pure contempt for organic life. But the more we learn
about Homeworld, the clearer it becomes that things are not so clear-cut. Why
would Peridot get so teary-eyed reminiscing about Homeworld if it had nothing
positive to offer her? Why would Garnet and Pearl miss certain things about
their home planet and society, even if they gave up everything they knew for
the chance at a new life? Why would Lapis do anything to go back home, and why
did she still remain loyal to Homeworld even if she found nothing resembling
the life she knew when she returned?
Each new episode hammers home the importance of looking at
others with compassion. Every antagonist had a reason for doing what they did.
Even the Cluster, which was a terrifying abomination that should never have
existed, had their reasons, and they deserved to be treated sympathetically and
be heard. So what does this mean for Homeworld? What makes the Gempire tick,
and why didn’t they stop the war before countless lives were lost?
Seeing Peridot’s behavior this episode, especially after
Steven told her he loved her, made me realize that what is going on is not so
much a battle between Good and Evil, but a conflict between a heavily
individualistic model of society vs. a heavily community-oriented one.
Homeworld is a community-oriented model of society taken to
its most extreme. Their social structure is focused entirely on the greater
good of Gemkind. Every Gem’s life revolves around their job, and they are
tailor-made to fulfill a specific and necessary role in Gem society. They are
mass-produced according to demand to fill the quotas that their society needs
to function. Their expansion is phrased by Peridot in It Could Have Been Great not
so much as a conquest of lesser species, but as a means of acquiring valuable
resources which allow the Gempire to sustain itself and expand outwards to find
new resources on other planets.
And, despite fanon assertions that the Diamonds and
higher-ranking Gems love to shatter lower-caste Gems who displease them at
random for no reason, from what we’ve seen, Homeworld is very adamant about
preserving the living resources they have. Before Peridot let slip that taboo
word that starts with “C” and ends with “rystal Gems,” the eternally busy Yellow
Diamond was perfectly willing to spend time and resources on calling a nearby
transport ship to swing by and pick Pierdot up to take her home, even though
Peridot claimed that she singlehandedly botched the mission. Blue Diamond only
ordered Ruby to be shattered because she violated a major taboo of Homeworld,
not because she was in her presence while being lower-class. And they were
sending parties explicitly phrased as “diplomatic missions” before the actual
war on Earth started, rather than shattering Rose and Pearl outright. Their
actions were all about preserving Gem lives, even against the rebels, and the
war only started because both sides reached an impasse that neither could
surmount without resorting to violence.
And then there’s the matter of Peridot’s enhancers. Lots of
people love to speculate that the enhancers were designed as a prison which
kept Peridot from accessing “her true potential” by keeping her dependent upon
Homeworld. But, honestly, I see them more as assistive technology. I mean, it’s
not like Peridot’s actually going to become stronger by not having her
enhancers; Gems can’t build muscle mass, as their forms are fixed to a specific
template for their whole lives. But think about it: a Gem’s life revolves
around being able to do their job, to the point that their caste and identity
is based solely on “what they’re for.” Peridot, without her enhancers, clearly
has trouble with most physical tasks that Peridots are expected to complete,
such as removing metal panels or moving heavy machinery around. I’m willing to
bet that Peridot is not so much a prisoner so much as she’s like Amethyst —
something happened during Peridot’s incubation period that affected her form,
making her different Peridots are “supposed” to be, in her case, being smaller
and physically weaker. When viewed in that light, the enhancers are hardly shackles
of enforced submission; instead, they are a means of allowing Peridot to
integrate into Gem society by allowing her to perform her assigned function
just as well as all of the other Peridots. Rather than a Social Darwinist
society where all “defective” Gems are culled at birth, Homeworld’s government
is focused on ensuring that all of its citizens are given what they see as the
best possible quality of life, in this case, the ability to contribute to the continued
functioning and expansion of the Gempire without physical strain or unnecessary
damage. This is why Peridot spoke of Yellow Diamond as a champion of fairness
and justice; she may not have been warm and fuzzy, but she ensured that accommodations
were available to every stratum of Gem society, and went out of her way to give
help to the Gems who needed it most. It’s also why Peridot spoke so fondly of
even the inanimate version of Peridots, since her identity was so wrapped up in
her caste and her job, that sense of belonging to something greater than
herself, and that sense of contributing to Gem civilization at large through
her caste’s collective efforts.
Now, in that sense, Homeworld is fantastic at providing for
the physical needs and wellbeing of their subjects. But we also have proof that
they are absolutely crummy at ensuring the psychological fulfillment and well-being of their subjects at an individual level.
When everything is about the community and the greater good,
individual needs tend to take a backseat. Selflessness in moderation builds
character, but when you’re constantly expected to work for others without
taking care of your own needs, it can rapidly become unhealthy. On Homeworld,
the focus isn’t on how you feel, but what you can do. We see the consequences
of that in Peridot.
Peridot worked seemingly from the day she was born. Her
entire life revolved around doing her job and doing it well. But even though YD
went out of her way to provide physically and practically for Peridot, she failed
to acknowledge Peridot as her own person, or even look her in the eye. Peridot
has never had those basic psychological needs for validation and affection
fulfilled, to the point where it’s implied that Steven’s “last words” were the
first time someone, anyone, outright told her that they loved her and cared
about her as a person, not just as a valuable “human resource” or Resident IT Guy.
Her strong flinch response to suddenly being touched or
having physical harm threatened to her also suggests the possibility that she
endured bullying or interpersonal abuse in her early years. Now, to me, this
doesn’t suggest that all of Homeworld is evil so much as that, due to their
priorities, they don’t have an effective system in place for dealing with
corruption or abuse on an individual, interpersonal level. After all, if
everyone is virtually interchangeable, then how could one Gem make others
suffer unnecessarily due to their own issues? This ineffectiveness is also due
to being a massive intergalactic empire. Even empires on Earth don’t have the
manpower required to surveil everything that happens in every tiny province, so
it’s easy for abuses of power to proliferate on the local level as long as the
higher-ups or the central government don’t hear about it.
It also suggests that there aren’t really any therapists on
Homeworld — so long as you’re capable of doing your job, no one feels the need
to check up on you. A Gem who shirks her duties can put a spanner in the entire
system and get slapped with a report, but a Peridot who bullies other Peridots
or a supervisor who loves terrorizing her underlings isn’t going to be
investigated so long as the consequences don’t impact or inconvenience the
system at large. In such a system, it would be very easy for an emotional
abuser to cover their tracks so long as their victims appeared perfectly
functional. Heck, threatening to impede their ability to do their jobs would be
enough to scare their victims into silence. And if a Gem falls apart due to the
stress of being abused, rather than being taken care of or the perpetrator
being dealt with, they’re probably just reassigned to somewhere else to prevent
further conflict, and the cycle begins anew with the Gem who replaces them. Homeworld’s
greatest issue is not so much outright maliciousness as it is emotional neglect
of themselves and others, allowing interpersonal and societal problems to stew
and fester by being ignored in favor of “the greater good.” As long as everyone’s
physical needs are provided for, what right do they have to complain? To do so
would be ungrateful for everything that’s been done for them, and so they keep
silent.
That laser-like focus on providing for their own species
also gave Gemkind a tendency to trample upon the rights of all non-Gem species
who happened to get in the way of their goal. It’s colonialism at its purest
essence; everything is about acquiring resources and land for the mother
country and ensuring that all citizens of the empire have access to their
promised supply of tea, sugar, and microchips. The fact that there may already
be people who live on that land or might be harmed by the process of extracting
those resources is treated as a mere inconvenience to be brushed aside so long
as everyone in the motherland is happy.
This is why Rose’s fixation on individual experience and perception
was considered so radical (and dangerous). Prioritizing, even celebrating, the
individual over the community was virtually unheard of in Gem society. Even the
Diamonds, whose iconography covers every inch of Gem art, are defined not as
celebrities with a cult of personality, but as Gems whose function is to govern
and ensure the well-being of all of the other Gems. Rose’s entire army was composed of Gems who
weren’t happy with the role that was determined for them before their own
birth. Pearl was from a caste that was so encouraged to put their needs aside
for others that they were treated as literal objects, but despite being raised
in such conditions she believed that she deserved autonomy and the freedom to
choose her own path. Garnet, who preferred existing as herself rather than two
separate Gems who were divided by a massive caste gulf, had to abandon her home
planet and flee to Earth just to live her life in peace. In the end, they were
happier on Earth than they were on Homeworld, because on Earth they were free
to decide who they loved and how they lived.
But that’s also why Lapis claimed that the Crystal Gems “didn’t
care about other Gems.” Every member of Rose’s faction prioritized their own
individual happiness above the well-being of all of Homeworld, to the point that
they were willing to destroy the system and kill their own kind, and for what? To
humans, who are used to regarding themselves as individuals, such a motive is
perfectly understandable, but to a Homeworld Gem it’s unnatural, even
monstrous. All they were accomplishing was denying the Gempire valuable
resources that could have ensured the well-being of existing Gems and the
potential to create new ones. People who prioritized their own happiness over
the good of their species were seen as selfish, defective, and were treated
like outcasts. It’s why Peridot called out YD’s behavior when it became clear
that her Diamond was acting based on her own emotions rather than for the good
of Homeworld. It’s why Homeworld cut all ties to Earth and effectively exiled
the surviving Crystal Gems rather than saying, “Hey, maybe these guys have a
point and we should reform the system.” To the remaining Diamonds, Rose and the
Crystal Gems were behaving selfishly, subverting their own best interests by
interfering with the colonization effort for no discernible reason, and needed
to be stopped for their own good and the good of all Gemkind.
However, this viewpoint also prevented the Homeworld Gems
from examining their own actions, and from realizing that something had to
change. This is why I think Steven is so important to the reconciliation of
Homeworld and Earth: he’s not just a bridge between humanity and Gemkind, but
also a balance between selflessness and self-care. He cares about others, and
will frequently put himself in danger to protect those he loves, but at the
same time he acknowledges the importance of being in touch with your own
feelings and taking care of yourself, and judging by a recent interview, his finding
that perfect balance will become a major part of his personal growth over the
series. Hopefully he’ll bring those lessons with him to Homeworld when the time
comes.
If you need further proof that this decision by Marvel is the actual worst thing ever, please consider that Captain America has officially lost the moral high ground to the Joker.
That’s right.
THE JOKER NOW HAS HIGHER MORAL STANDARDS THAN STEVE ROGERS, AND THAT’S JUST NOT RIGHT PEOPLE
